I work in a big company, we have a lot of production buildings and offices in Montreal. 2 weeks ago, I talked with a colleague that I have never seen that works somewhere else... and I thought that she was very sweet. A day later one of my buddies that is sitting next to me had to call her for a request and she was hesitant to help him, he asked her if she was single (she said yes) because he has someone that he wants to present to her, me (I was a bribe to get what he wanted)... We all were laughing and he did a good job describing my qualities ! Yesterday we talked a lot again because we have a common problem with a part and boy was it great, we were chatting and I made her laugh a couple of times !!!

Im just wondering if this is all a sign that I should just try and invite her out... im just not sure how to proceed with asking someone at work on a date, anyone ever did ?!

As long as you don't see her/have to interact with her on a daily basis then do it. The easiest thing to do is get a couple coworkers both male and female, to go out after work, invite her.

Well, I haven't asked a girl from work out before, simply because I'm a lazy good-for-nothing that doesn't work.

However, I go to school, and I can't imagine it to be too different. If you don't see her a lot, and aren't causing awkward moments if things don't work out, then just go for it, ask her out like you would any other girl. Assuming of course, that you don't need help with that too. If you do, we're here to help!

You know what to do, say it with me. . . JAHO! :celebration:

invite her on a group trip to a bar or whatever's popular after work. make advances after everyone's gotten settled at whatever place you're going to. See about getting the night between you two to last longer than the inital event, or at least make sure you're the one providing her ride home. If things went well, schedule outing alone with her. (in other words, JAHO)

Congrats man! I would say go for it, even in the very slim off chance that she doesn't like you, its another experience. I would say do something casual like coffee or what darthravenger said, then if it goes well ask her to go for dinner or whatever with you.

Do it. I once slept with my boss at her birthday party and it was well worth the slightly awkward atmosphere in the office the next day.

Women are horrible gossips, doubly more so in a workplace. I suggest you arrange accidents for her friends in case they try to sabotage it.

JAHO... what the heck is that ?!

Actually my office staff are mostly parents/already in couples and dont go out much... plus I feel much better one on one than in groups

[censored] it, ill try tomorrow, I just need to find the proper words to ask her !!!!

I discovered a great band 1 month ago called Porcupine Tree and one of the songs really got to me ''Nothing happens if you dont make it happen''... I must not forget that

Just
Ask
Her
Out

Also the group thing is to ease any potential awkwardness, in case things don't go your way

"Hey, you wanna go grab a beer after work?"

"Hey, you wanna go get a coffee at lunch?"

"Hey, you wanna see that new movie?"

seriously, don't overthink this. You don't need to serenade her.


Also, the group thing is easier to ask her out on then a single thing if you're nervous.

Dating other professionals you frequently come into contact with in the same company is not a good idea. Been there, done that, when the relationship ends, it can be awkward for both parties. You also have to seperate your romantic selves from your professional selves, work comes first at work, social issues are best dealt with at home.

Just do it.

If you can get her to laugh and smile theres probably some chance.

Ask her if she'd like some home grilled steak with veggies at your place.

If you don't see her very often, do it. I'm in the same situation and fortunately, if we stopped dating and such, I would only have to see him walk through the door and that's it. Take the chance.

I think as long as it doesn't interfere with your work, I don't see a problem with asking out a co-worker. At work is usally one of the only places to meet anybody.

Make sure you know how to cook first.

I say go for it. What have you got to lose? The fact that you were able to make her laugh is a good sign. If you can make them laugh, the battle is half over. Now you just gotta sell yourself to her, let her know that you are a great guy. Good luck. Just don't try TOO HARD to be funny. There is a line between amusing and desperate.

Most of the time the answer is that it's not a good idea to date coworkers

But if you're mature and can handle it in an advlt way (not that advlt way :stare:) then I say go for it

Take it slow and don't rush it.

If a guy can't cook a steak, even decently, then he's not a real man. The bond between a man and his steak is sacred.

My mother happened to be my father's boss, if that helps.

Uh oh...

lol'ed

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This. Its the easiest, and bestest thing to do imo

I know at my place of employment, the relationships all started through hanging out at work more (it's probably easier here) and then hanging out as friends after a while after work, then eventual ly dates and then relationships. It was always weird when I would have a co-worker be very forward about that, and not just because I'm not available. It's one thing for a co-worker to think you're cute and good company, but to be asked out on a date after two conversations is a different story. Then you'd most likely fall back on just talking about work.

Then again, that's here, in a retail store consisting mostly of 19-26 year olds. I would assume things are different there.