Lately (the past few months), I have been hit with abnormally touchy anger. In all kinds of things. It bugs me because I really am not an angry person, though I may seem like it at times here

I can be watching TV, or playing a game, or reading message boards, even reading a book! Suddenly, something hits me "wrong", and I just go off. I may turn off the TV. I may put (not throw) the book down. I may exit a game. I may post a nasty response on a mesasage board.

I really like this community, though. I feel safe here and pretty much know how posters feel about general things. I don't think there is any one poster here I feel I need to avoid reading. I disagree with many here, but we seem to keep things quite civil and sometimes even fun.

What has brought this to my attention is my time spent around a specific community as of late. This community strives to be "friendly and welcoming", but it is fake. It is almost like a sugar overload there. Nobody can do any wrong and support for any tribulations oozes with every comment.

While I do not dislike this kind of thing, like everything else, moderation is the key. They are a community of "social activists from their keyboards" and are quick to "judge" differing thought processes. Yet overall, they are overly sweet and supportive, of each other.

I am not of their hive mind and many times find myself almost sick with anger. And it bugs me. I have no reason to feel this way. Hell, they are trying to be a "nice community!" But it is so fake and forced...

Anyway, if you've read this far, you must be truly bored!

Do others feel an "unwelcome anger" rising up unexpectedly without "good" reason? Could be in anything like work, entertainment, what have you. Or am I missing some chemicals or synapsi(?) connections?

Just when I remember my girlfriend is still living with her ex. But I think that's a good enough reason to get pissy, after all it has been nearly a year.

Quite often I find myself in a bad mood when nothing serious is wrong. I'll be 49 in March, maybe I'm just turning into a cranky old man. Get off of my lawn!

I often get terribly angry about things, and it doesn't always make for especially good judgement calls, as well as just not being a feeling I especially enjoy. I've noticed it tends to be a lot worse if I'm feeling especially depressed, so that might be worth checking out.

Usually when I'm tired. Often when I'm hungry. Sometimes when I'm horny. Hit me with all 3 and I can get a little explosive.

In the front or back of your undies?

No you misunderstand. I meant emotionally explosive.

I have my anger fits once in a while I think thats why I can relate to the hulk there was a scene in the ang lee hulk movie that said after every tanformation after getting all that pent up anger out he awakes feeling refreshed I would love to be able to transform into the hulk do a stratosphere jump to the nearest empty rocky area and just go beserk for 2 hours make another jump Home go to sleep and wake up feeling like i had a great night of six.......

Ah! So now I know who you really are; https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zt4Bt9LrwqM

On topic I can say I feel this as well. I can get angry for the littlest of things, but I have always noticed a sort of a "build-up" beforehand. It′s often a topic that upsets me that comes up in my mind and I start thinking about it, making myself angry little by little. Usually this goes on for a couple of days and finally it culminates on a certain day when something totally unexpected happens and I simply blow up. It doesn′t have to be a big thing that triggers me, but the combination of the build-up and the unexpected event is what set me off.

I′m working on it though...

Have you tried something new in your life? Maybe getting out more? Anger can become more frequent out of boredom. Even if you don't think your bored, on a subconscious level, you could be.

I don′t know if you meant me, but I actually am bored quite often

I had only read the OP but it can be applied to anyone in general that is having frequent anger. Boredom can make you anxtious which makes you angry at small triggers. Finding new ways to handle that boredom can relieve the anxiety.

I used to get angry about all sorts of things, mostly those things I could do nothing about.

Nowadays I don't have the energy most of the time. When I do get angry its usually due to stress or because working with children I spend the whole day being patient and controlled but it wouldn't be fair to take it out on my friends or family so I go kill a few pixels instead.

If it has only been happening the last few months perhaps you're experiencing https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seasonal_affective_disorder

I generally feel like I've been born angry. I've been living with it, which is sometimes painful. I even sometimes forget about it, until...

Aww

Maybe you're falling to the dark side? Let the hate flow through you!

I've been getting angry lately too. Especially with people in cars trying to kill me on my bike. They get all hot and bothered because I'm in the middle of the slow lane......my legal right when there is more than 1 lane. Apparently these people have licenses, yet don't know, or care about the rules of the road. They start revving their engines, passing by WAAAAAY too close, when I'm well within my rights to be there. I think to myself, is the fast lane broken? I mean, really? WTH? Why can't you simply use it???

Then there are those drivers who feel being 5 meters ahead of where they are is just sooooo important. If I, on my bike, can keep pace with the car ahead of me, and I do, I am allowed to be in the middle of a single lane. I am a vehicle in the eyes of the law. That affords me the same rights as cars. A lot of drivers don't seem to know this, and want to occupy the space I am in, just so they can go the same speed behind the car holding me at mine. Uhg, I hate bad (self entitled, arrogant) drivers!! If I'm in the wrong, fine, I'll apologize, but when I'm not.....GRRRRR!

I'm embarrassed to admit it but I lost my temper a couple weeks back.

I was just getting my order and was about to leave McDonald's and saw the security guard kicking out one of the local bums. By the time I walked to the front of the building from the back, he had gone outside and was lifting and dropping my bike repeated, though just on the tires. I've been dealing with depression and high anxiety for a bit now and when I saw him messing with my bike, I kinda lost it. (I don't have much in this world, nor the money to replace anything I do have.) I started yelling at him, then, to my own surprise, I kinda popped him in the jaw. I still wince when I think about it. I'm not a violent man. In fact, I rather detest violence so imagine my shock once the heat of the situation died down.

Having spent time with bums, back when I was a drunk, it's a sad fact, but most drunks only do really seem to understand a pop in the jaw over any kind of reasonable discussion. Still, doesn't make it right, but it's unfortunately what happened.

I'm going to slink away now, embarrassed by my actions.

Nah, i'm a real Captain Mellow

I was prone for violent outburst when younger, but in retrospect that was caused by circumstances. In other words, [censored]s i had deal with.
But now i've matured into a full-blooded hedonist Occasionally a nihilist. Either way, no point in getting angry, for tomorrow we die

I get that. I seem to collect disorders. But this time of year in the northern hemisphere (not as bad as some, but England is on around the same latitude as Canada, so they'll know how it is) is absolutely not my favourite. I love June when the days are long and nights are gone in a blink, but even then I worry about it getting darker again.

Also this thing about confrontation. I'm not exactly a physically imposing being, other than my weight; I'm not brave, I'm not a troublemaker, I am agoraphobic and socially phobic. But when someone causes a confrontation, basically saying "so you want to fight about it?", it seems I can't help but say "yeah, okay then." I've had a few encounters, nearly all of which have been on rail networks (no surprise there, they bring out the worst of the best of us) but I've had people shove me out the way, be ludicrously rude or just generally being that incredibly annoying passive-aggressive sort of thing. But it takes a lot for me to disengage: usually that's not a problem as people who are being all big and clever about something usually back down real fast when someone says "yeah, okay then, if that's the way it is" though I did get one hokerr who I thought was actually going to physically attack me. I was too stupid to let it drop and only did so when other passengers started complaining that it was frightening the kids (I'm not sure if there were actually any kids present, but the point was made). IOW, I R idiot.

Thanks for the understanding and support!

This is quite possible, as I have grown agoraphoic in the past few years. Well, not really agoraphobic, but definitely not wanting to leave my home. It is hard to "get out" without a car, and I think I have just accepted being homebound.

This is another good catch. I do get "more cranky" around the Holidays. They seem to remind me how alone I am.

Again, thanks all, even Terribilis and bonalste for their banter earlier. I smiled broadly with that exchange

Basically, I have been a "water off a duck's back" kind of guy, where nothing really gets under my skin. I want to be a "positive vibe" for the people around me. It seems as I grow older, all these things have built up and I seem more touchy now.

I don't know your living situation or your health condition but would walking be possible? Just a quick walk around the block would be something. The mind becomes complacent and bored when it lives in a routine life style. Seeing, hearing, and smelling the same things all the time in a day in day out pattern becomes stale fast. Eventually the subconscious mind will get fed up with it and "lash out" just to have something new to experience. Heck even getting a lawn chair and listening to birds and squirrels in the back yard cam do wonders. Though physical activity works best.

As ever, I still advise caution: physical activity has been great for my physical health to the point where it seems to have actually reversed my diabetes and has brought my body back from the crappy state it was in when I had a heart attack; on the other hand it takes a massive toll on my mental health and invariably worsens my depression and anxiety to a very significant degree. I guess as usual, you win some, you lose some, but I guess we need to be aware of the effects and make our own judgements of the relevant pros and cons. In my case it is a bit fractional, in that physically, exercising probably saved my life; but mentally, not so much, and were it not for the police dragging me off fighting about a dozen times I'm not sure I'd still be here (I'll quickly acknowledge that was certainly not a simple product of physical exercise, but I think it did push me over the edge on various occasions).

Good advice, charon and vometia, backed doctor's I have seen. I did get a blood clot a few months back, due to my sedentary lifestyle. Walking is viable and something I need to do. Right now, the winter is strong, but I need to get out and walk daily

I'm the same.

Winter is always a downer, but some worse than others. (This one being moderate+.) I love waking up at 4:30 in the morning on a beautiful summer day when the sun is just about to break over the horizon.

I also get annoyed by peoples lack of common courtesies and/or politeness. I try to be polite to all those I come across in a day. I'm the guy that will wait that extra moment to hold a door for someone. If I see someone who could use a hand, I'll offer it. I'll signal a car through a 4-way even though I got there first and have right of way. You know, just to be nice. So when someone treats me rudely, I take great offense. Though I don't generally say anything and just think to myself "nice".

I ended up on my backside after a car all but brushed up against me and I was not at fault. I lost it. I got up and started towards the car, yelling, being my only intention, and the poor guy had his foot on the wheel pressed as far back as he could get in his seat repeating "I'm so sorry" over and over rather rapidly. It immediately "disarmed" my anger. He knew it was his fault, and was apologetic, rather than acting like it was my fault.

A simple apology when wronged, goes a long way in my book.