So i have tried to add mods and i am just too stone age to do it. I was wondering if anyone would be willing to make me one file of some of the mods i want? It wouldnt be too many and it would be greatly apprecieated

I don't think that idea will appeal to many people here, Matt.

If you want to start out easy, get yourself a copy of the http://tesnexus.com/downloads/file.php?id=2097 (OBMM). Also, make sure you have the latest official patch (the Shivering Isles one, if you have the Shivering Isles installed, and the plain Oblivion one, if you don't). You can get that http://www.elderscrolls.com/downloads/updates_patches.htm. Only bother getting that (and installing it) if you're not using the Game of the Year version of Oblivion, though. Reason being, GotY Oblivion comes pre-patched.

Get the OMOD version of mods, including those below, when there's an option for that. That's the format that OBMM uses, and it's about as straightforward as you can get.

Then, having already installed OBMM (linked above), use it to install the http://tesnexus.com/downloads/file.php?id=5296, then the http://tesnexus.com/downloads/file.php?id=27710 for it. If you have Shivering Isles installed (separately, or because you have the Game of the Year version, which includes it by default), now proceed to installing the http://tesnexus.com/downloads/file.php?id=10739. If you also have any other official mods (often called DLC, which stands for DownLoadable Content - Knights of the Nine is the best known of these, for example) there's a patch for them too: the http://tesnexus.com/downloads/file.php?id=9969. Game of the Year has some DLC, so if you have that, definitely get that patch too, and install it.

Right. Now you've got the absolute basics, and - with any luck - a handle on using OBMM. You should be set, to at least make some headway. Asking more questions is totally fine, at any stage. But be sure to read things like readme files, and instructions/advice at mod download pages; that kind of thing. And if you need someone to clarify anything about a mod, try asking in the mod's own thread, where possible. If you're looking for particular mods, or kinds of mods, try the Mods Detectives thread (usually to be found on the first page of threads, but maybe second or third - its sole purpose is that.

There's a wealth of information at http://tesivpositive.animolious.com/, but take it slow there, is my advice. One thing at a time. Better to take a little more time, than to rush things and end up in a right mess.

edit: Also, check out some of the stickied threads at the top of this forum. They'll help to get you started as well.

Complete Guide to Modified Oblivion - http://tesivpositive.animolious.com/?page=guides_mod_installation&subpage=complete_installation_guide <-- If you decide to use this and you have any problems, let me know. It is a newly posted guide.

Not only that, but it's virtually impossible to do. Some mods just don't like being merged, you'll break them if you try. Or you might end up with some sort of conflict with another mod that can't be fixed. Then if there's ever an update to any of the mods used, you'll have to get someone to go through that process all over again. And it's time consuming enough that not too many people want to bother with it in the first place. Just keep trying, it's not that hard once you get the hang of it.

OK thanks everyone ill post any questions here...here i go!

If you follow the guide I linked, please stick to the instructions there.

It took me years to finally understand how to correctly add mods and in what order...and I still screw up the order anyways!

You're doing pretty well with a 200+ mod list a no direct BOSS use though... I actually said something along the same lines, the former part, anyway, in that guide. Load ordering and install order are definitely not cookie-cutter process. If you have not run into a mod of type X before, you start learning things from the bottom up again...