You are allowed to interpret the topic as you wish, so long as you stay within reasonable boundaries. So then, do you tend to be more dominant or submissive in situations? Are you a natural leader or are you someone who obeys and do as they're told? Is there any reason why you act that way? Obviously we all have a bit of both, but which one are you more inclined to be? I left out the "both" options in the poll because I hate neutral answers.

As for me, I tend to be more dominant. I like telling people what to do and I'm not very disciplined when it comes to following orders. Ever since I grew up I've always been the one to assume responsibility when anything was organised, and unless someone else has already assumed leadership then I rarely ended up as a "follower."

I do find the idea of being submissive exciting in erotic circumstances, but it's not really my natural self.

Alright then. Are you more dominant or submissive?

Being a follower where I grew up meant joining a [censored] gang and being a wuss . I'm a leader and at times can be very VERY bossy (Not a good trait to some but I don't give a [censored]).

I tend to take charge in a lot of situations. There are some where I'll be submissive. Overall, I'm more dominant, if only in that I prefer to be in control of myself.

I tend to be submissive, although I'd like to be more dominant. I lack the confidence (and enthusiasm) to assume leadership or take initiative. I find it more natural to obey than to give orders. It depends on the situation and how enthusiastic I am, but I usually prefer doing as I'm told, yet I find the idea of being the one in control appealing, as well. I was more dominant and had better leadership abilities when I was younger and less self-conscious, and my submissiveness now probably stems from that (my self-consciousness, that is). Indifference and lack of enthusiasm as well.

If I get really into something and can stop caring about how others might perceive me, I can totally become dominant and bossy, but it doesn't happen often.

Dominant. Captain of the Defense on my Football team kind of ensured that. Then at 20 years old, supervising a small construction crew of all older guys pretty much made that the only option. I also have a hard time trusting other people's competence, so I tend to take charge and make sure anything we are doing gets done right. Same applies in groups in school. I will do the entire assignment myself if I feel that the others in my group are even remotely incompetent, or I will do the work of the ones I deem not up to the task. I can be quite patronizing, but usually I sugar coat that with excuses so it takes out the sting of me basically saying my group members are idiots. Unless we are graded individually based on our own performance, then my laziness comes out and I just do my part.

I do know how to submit to higher authority though, because frankly, sometimes you have to. I usually plan on usurping their position if I am in a situation where I will be there awhile. Unless I like them, then I kind of end up as an equal on the dominance scheme, though I let them to the dirty work of managing people.

I'm submissive. I have a bad habit of not standing up for myself until I get mad and blow up.

Neither. I stand up for myself when needed, yet know when, and where to pick and choose my battles.

I hate that quality from people (aside from the passive-aggression). I used to think like you, and I did all the work myself. Then, I realized that I didn't have time to finish the job, and the stress is immense. One thing I realized when working in a group is you learn to delegate. Otherwise, you can't get things done.

It really depends on who I'm around. If I know the people I'm with I tend to err towards a dominant position, usually because I'm too proud and stubborn. With strangers, though, I tend to assume (sometimes incorrectly) that they know what they're doing better than I do, so I step back and let them run the show. I do have to agree that being a sixual sub is pretty fun, though.

I'm a bit of a mix. In many social situations, I tend to be submissive. But in anything related to academia, I am dominant. I'll be the one that edits the team paper and makes it mine.

I dont really like being boss unless I have to be. I dont exactly like control freaks but I like a woman to make her own decisions and knows what she wants.

i guess it sort of depends. if someone else is willing to take charge then i'm all for that but if i'm clearly the most qualified person for the task i'll say as much, though i won't actually do anything unless someone asks.

basically i'm kind of an M because i'm too lazy to be an S. energy exerted unduly is energy wasted.

I'm fine at following orders, but I by far prefer to be in charge. I'm a planner and I generate ideas, so that puts me best just below an overall leader. I naturally try to take command of situations.

I have a dominant personality, but I've been trying to work my way down to assertive and eventually neutral.

You are missing an option. Some people, like myself, are a "switch". As in, we change our position from time to time purposely cause we like both sides of the spectrum, really.

Until you fixed that, I cannot vote in the poll obviously.

Oh and why am I a switch? Well. I am dominant in many aspects about my life. I like to have control over things which are mine but at the same time, I have a submissive personality... Though like I said, I am dominant in many aspects and high enough in those aspects where I will become aggressive/defensive if someone tries to out-dom me in those aspects.

Romantic relationship wise... I can take either the dominant or submissive spot in the relationship as I don't mind either way. Though I might be more dominant in this aspect because I do not wish to have sixual intercourse at all honestly... Not interested in such.

In relationships and sixual nature? Kind of a give and take/equal person. I like a mix of dominance and submissiveness, but for the most part, I am a dominant person. In social situations, I'm quiet and not really active, but I like to try and be the dominant one in things, I've got a weird nature for control.

I'm dominant usually. In my marriage, job, family etc.

I'm the dominant type. I like to do things my way and tend to not really give a [censored] what anyone else thinks. Growing up with an army fanatic father made me into a real tomboy haha. It's one of the reasons I don't like "Gender roles" and societies expectations for women, I know what i like/want so shut up, k?, tanks. In situations where group work is needed, I prefer to "quarterback" it and tell others how things should be done/who is doing what.

Being submissive in a sixual nature is something I'm not sure I'd like...I prefer a tussle. (>??)

I know that feeling

Loaded title. Wouldn't "leader or follower" make more sense?

Besides, I don't like to lead or follow, I'd rather not deal with people in either regard.

No, I do not miss any options. I deliberately put only two there. It's a shame to miss out on your vote.

No.

Assertive tomboy, huh? Those are always nice.

Dominant for sure. I lead, help lesser plebeians with mundane tasks and I speak with an appropriately loud but firm voice.

I am: THE 1920's MAN! except more tolerant to others (I think) and I use my physical strength for good.

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Oh look, the thread got noticeably shorter. I am willing to give the topic a chance, in spite of the tee-hee racy thread title gambit - but most of you know better than to link stuff you shouldn't or post stuff that you know is over the line. Behave. If we have to come back here, it gets locked.

Miss the part where I ran a construction crew? I delegated plenty, when it was appropriate. Obviously, if the workload increases, then I have to adjust my approach and use my assets to their fullest. Which is what a leader does. Then I encourage the people who seem more competent to do harder tasks and I give tedious but easy work to the less competent people so we get maximum efficiency. That being said, there hasn't been anything in school that really necessitates other people, I can easily do the tasks myself. So frankly, yes I can get things done, currently. Different career paths call for different things. Obviously, you being in Nursing, will require more teamwork on an everyday basis than say, History where I am at.

Not sure what you mean about passive aggressive. When I say I sugar coat my opinion of them being incompetent, I mean they don't find out and I make sure they buy my excuses, which was the implication. Managing a group and making them work takes leadership, letting them know I think they are incompetent in the area we are working in isn't conducive to getting the job done. Same thing applies on a football field, in a construction crew or in a school group.