Story time, friends.
It's funny, because the fighting, screaming and kvetching has been going on literally since the release of Fallout 2 (that's a long time, kids). And once upon a time Fallout developers DID in fact join in. Then around 2006-07 when it became clear what Bethesda was doing with (to?) the franchise the fighting, screaming and kvetching got louder than ever before; even louder than during Fallout:Tactics release (i.e. when the term "Glittering Gems of Hatred" was coined by the dev team to describe the Fallout fanbase). And some of the Bethesda devs would pop up at the fan sites, usually to try to justify themselves and their choices only to be immolated within minutes. Then Bethesda made rules: No more devs posting at taboo sites. But the hatred could not be contained. It leaked out onto the official forums and comment threads of every gaming site known to man. And the developers, like a group of turtles, would only dare to poke their heads out ooccasionally to make sure no debris was being hurled in their direction.
And it's honestly pretty dang hard to blame them. At this point all they can do is pat each other on the back and say things like "Well back here in reality, Fred, we did a great job and we made a great game. Let the grognards fight from their basemants" etc, etc. which is obvious in that it is quite a defense mechanism, but moreover a necessary survival mechanism as well. All this is to say: I sincerely doubt we will ever live to see another day where Fallout developers engage with the Fallout fanbase. If Obsidian get another chance, we'll probably see guys like J.E. Sawyer engaging in strangely autistic debates about gun traits, but that's probably about it.