As you know, things aren't quite so simple when you roleplay. You take details seriously.

Now here's the thing, I have this Orc character which is the Harbinger and married to Borgakh the Steel Heart.

Being a leader (the Companions will tell you otherwise but the Harbinger does lead them) requires your presence to some degree.

But then you bring Borgakh to the equation.My character wouldn't get in the way of her beliefs. The ideal place for them to be together would be one where Uramulg can honor his role as harbinger and his wife can maintain her traditional lifestyle.

Where should the Orcish couple live?

A) A purchased house: No chance, she wouldn't be happy as a city Orc.

B') Take residence in Mor Khazgur: Hunt deer everyday to contribute to the tribe.

But then he'd be too far away from Whiterun.

C) Visit her from time to time: Long distance relationship? Nah.

D) HF house, Heljarchen Hall. Seems like the best choice but that already was my solution for a character with a similar issue. Not sure if I want repetition.