This may be common knowledge. Please enlighten me on how to do this, or if it is coming, or if it is not in the game which is a shame!

No at the moment it cant. EA has not released the server files yet. You have to be on their "Hosting Partners list". I don't know if they are ever going to release to the public .

You could always get the leak. It does LAN just fine.
Though since it's not the final build, it'll have sound problems, but that's about it. Everything else is the same.