so i first tried manually installing, which was confusing because tes alliance had 4 different downloads so i downloaded them all in one folder, then i copied all files and folders and pasted them into my oblivion data folder, i checked all of the files in the oblivion start up, and it wouldnt even start oblivion, it would immediately close, then i have tried the obmm route and i dont think thats working either, i put the archive in and created the omod, and it put 4 files in the obmm list, but i dont think that worked either. every different install i did i started with a fresh game and went to the starting dungeon, ran through it and didnt notice any changes.... so if someone can help me it would be greatly appreciated.

Did you read the readme before attempting this? For your sake use BAIN. It's easier to manage your mods that way and it will make your life easier in the long run.