everytime i try to traded with a seller the game crashes can someone help

We can't really help you with out your load order.

fallout 3.esm
anchorage.esm
pitt.esm
brokensteel.esm
pointlookout.esm
zeta.esm
craft.esm
caliber.esm
projectbeauty.esm
crossmoddata.esm
hairpack.esm
fook2main.esm
fook2-[[censored]]worldandneighborkit.esm
fook2-[dik]dlcimprovementkit
streetlights.esm
vault101revisited.esm
aa12fullauto.esp<----this is bolded like an esm not sure if i should delete this
fallout3tactics.esm
animyprostitution.esm
fo3wandererseditionmainfile.esm
maets mutant mod.esm
amywong.esm
enhanceweatherrainandsnow.esm
xephasdynamicweather.esm
darnifieduif3.esp
projectbeauty-brokensteel.esp
projectbeauty-pointlookut.esp
craft-activationperk.esp
fallout 3 tactics creatures.esp
fallout 3 tactics food.esp
fallout 3 tactics npcs.esp
fallout 3 tactics quests.esp
fallout 3 tactics wastland.esp<------unchecked
fallout 3 tactics weapons.esp
alienmesmetronV-1.0.esp
galaxynewsradio100.esp<------gnr more where that came from add a hundred new songs
felloutfull.esp
fellout-pipboylight.esp
g36mod.esp
g36assaultriflereplacer.esp
colt m16a1 limitededition.esp
caliber-cabinet.esp<---add a cabinet that has 650000 of each caliber ammo
consolecodelists.esp
eyesaddon.esp
behemoth.esp
behemothrespawn.esp
danwesson ppc357(caliber).esp
nitem4re_m4a1.esp<---adds a new gun
yk40pulsepistol.esp
epr-057.esp
prototypeionrifle.esp
kikailibertyrifle.esp
speech,hackand max level.esp
playthings.esp
hairaddnpc.esp
amazingmindcontroldevice.esp
streetlights-wasteland.esp
arcadesnightwear.esp
casm.esp
dree perks.esp
aa12semi.esp<----bolded as an esm<----not checked
mysteriouswoman-topless.esp
fook2main.esp
fook2[eve]energyvisualenhanced.esp<---not checked
fook2-[[censored]]worldandneighborkit.esp
fallout 3 damagetimes2.esp
myfook2-noraqevictims.esp<----unchecked
myfook2blackandwhitetranqulitylane.esp<-------not checked could this be the reason why i cant get into tranqulitylane (otherproblem)
kbatradio.esp
dragonskinoutfits.esp
bzarmour.esp
animyprostitution.esp
blasterequipment.esp
dragonskinbonus.esp
animalfriendinsects.esp
animalfriendinsectsixclusions.esp<---unchecked
p90.esp
slowerdegradation-95esp
owned.esp
hokutoshinken.esp
raiderfriendperk.esp
megatonlightoverhaul.esp
overhead3pcamera.esp<------unchecked
APreanimated.esp
a.c.e.esp
bettercaravans.esp
hz_xm586ur.esp
BoSpatrol.esp
fo3 wanderers edition main file.esp
fo3 wanderers edition dlc anchorage.esp
fo3 wanderers edition dlc pitt.esp
fo3 wanderers edition dlc brokensteel.esp
fo3 wanderers edition dlc poinlookout.esp
fo3 wanderers edition dlc zeta.esp
fo3 wanderers edition followers enhance.esp
fo3 wanderers edition optional restore tracers automatic only.esp<----what does this do
fo3 wanderers edition project beauty.esp
fo3 wanderers edition project beauty followers enhanced.esp
weaponmodkits.esp
weaponmodkits-fook.esp
weaponmodkits-fwe master release.esp
weaponmodkits-fwe optionalworn guns.esp<------unchecked
weaponmodkits-operationanchorage.esp
weaponmodkits-pitt.esp
weaponmodkits-brokensteel.esp
weaponmodkits-pointlookout.esp
weaponmodkits-zeta.esp
eve.esp
eve operation anchorage.esp
eve-fwe master release followersenhanced.esp
eve-fwe master release.esp
eve anchorage fwe-dlc anchorage.esp
eve-fwe with weaponmodkits
martsmutantmod.esp
martsmutantmod dlc anchorage.esp
martsmutantmod dlc pitt.esp
martsmutantmod dlc broken steel.esp
martsmutantmod dlc zeta.esp
martsmutantmod tougher traders.esp
martsmutantmod zone respawns.esp<---unchecked
martsmutantmod fook2.esp
martsmutantmod fook2-dik.esp
martsmutantmod project beauty.esp
martsmutantmod fwe master release.esp
martsmutantmod project beauty + fwe.esp
bettercompanionsessential.esp
bettercompanion clover essential.esp
bettercompanion non essentail.esp<------not checked
amywong loadorder fix.esp<-----what does this do
amywong fose.esp
amywong dlcs.esp
amywong fook2.esp
follower amata be quiet.esp<-----not checked
follower amata ultimate.esp
fallout 3 tactics weather.esp
enhanced weather rain and snow.esp
enhanced weather rainbows.esp
enhanced weather weather sounds.esp
enhanced weather sneak bonus during rain.esp
xephas dynamic weather-main.esp
merged patch.esp

Does this happen when you mouse over items in the vendors' wares? If so, chances are that an ARMO item has too many object effects (enchantments) and the HUD runs out of room to display them, thus the crash.

Also, although I made sure FOOK2 v1.0 never assigned more than five 'enchantments' to any given article and doubt FOOK2 v1.0 is the problem, I'd still recommend updating your FOOK to its most recent iteration, v1.1b2 available http://www.yourfook.com/downloads/, after removing all of the v1.0 plugins.

is there a way to fix this problem

Go to a vendor that you know can reproduce the crash, then carefully navigate to their armor section without mousing over any of the items. Once in the armor specific section of their wares, mouse over the items one by one reading them before mousing over. The last one you read before the crash, if an item having too many object effects is in fact the cause, will be your culprit. From there, if you don't know which mod it's from, you can open all of your plugins in FO3Edit or the GECK and search by name until you find it so you can remove a base effect or two from the attached object effect. Any combo of five MGEF's in an ENCH will fit in the HUD invariably.