A couple of minor questions:
Vilja has moved to Aleswell Home. I told her to use the bed in the attic, but when we were downstairs and my char waited a couple of hours, Vilja wondered if there was a bed she could sleep in. Shouldn't she find her way to her bed in the attic from downstairs?
If you by "downstairs" mean the living-area, she should indeed find her way to the attic, unless you had told her another place were her new home in between, that would "cancel" her old bedmarkers. (Like if you for instance told her that she was living in Anvil and then returned to Aleswell and told her she lived there; then her bedmarker wouldn't automatically be in the attic).
If you by "downstairs" mean the basemant, she should have picked a bed there, unless they were already occupied.
Her bedmarker works like this: in order to prevent her from wandering off to distant towns to sleep, like some companions do, Vilja will only leave for her bedroom if she is in a cell that is close by the cell with her bedmarker, and she will only go to the cell with the bedmarker if she is in the cell with the homemarker if that makes sense. I think (but I haven't tested, as the situation hasn't arised before and I cannot play Oblivion right now) that if you tell her that she lives in the basemant of Aleswell (this is our new home) and you then are together with her in the livingarea, she wouldn't automatically go to the attic to sleep, as the attic isn't adjacent to the basemant.
Also, my char lives in Frostcrag Spire and ever since Vilja has her bed in Aleswell I've noticed that she can disappear from Frostcrag when told to relax. I thought she might try to get to Aleswell when wanting to sleep perhaps? I followed her once and she exited Frostcrag and used the teleport to go to Cheydinhal's Mages Guild. Weird. Also, sometimes she stays put in Frostcrag and uses the bed there. In short, when telling her to relax, what are her priorities?
Well, her priority should be to rest where she is, i.e. in Frostcrag, and it is in order to prevent her to go to Aleswell or anywhere else to sleep that we decided on the "design" of her bedmarker and sleepmarker system described above. What happens if you tell her which bed is hers i Frostcrag, will she again behave correctly?
I love how she has a mind of her own. When talking to her in the Market Distric, she promptly said she was going to buy "alchemical ingredients" (read: strawberries) and that I could follow if I wanted to - and then she went away.
I like it too... but I guess one has to get used to that companions don't always do what you expect them to, because over time I have had 2-3 letters from people who cannot understand why she suddenly walked away...