Go for it man. If you have feelings for her and she also has them for you then you should give it a try, it isn't what I would do, but I'm a few years older and well, I'm not really that interested in teenagers anymore.

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If you are already in the relationship, just don't push it too hard for a year or so.
Or wait a year to kick things up.

Regardless of how mature either of you are both of you are still physically developing your brains and your character.
For one, you guys are at different stages in that.
And two, ish can change fast at that age.

I'm 22 and my girlfriend is 19 almost 20 and it's fine. It's not that big of a difference. But when the parties involved are in their teen years, it makes a bigger difference. I don't say this to dissuade or discourage you at all. In fact, to respond to your question/concern, I'll quote the wise Dr Kelso from Scrubs "Just follow your heart and do whatever the hell you want." If you want to be with her, do it. You'll make it work out. Don't worry about what others will think about your age difference.

I'd say usually that's kind of frowned upon, but based on the fact that your friend set you up I guess maybe it isn't where you live? It's not exactly pushing it I guess, but that's about as young as you can go IMO.

Wouldn't count on her father being okay with it though. I mean, if I were her father I'd hate your guts, just sayin'.

you have to be very careful. If you are 18 or over and are dating someone who is below 18, you have to be very, very, very careful. You could be charged with being a pedofile very easily when it comes to that. I know right now that you are thinknig "well nobody is going to do that to me. She wouldn't do that to me." but my suggestion is to get to know her parents, and let them know that you are ok, and get them to trust you. Seriously dude. I have not been charged with being a pedofile, but I have known some people that have. They didn't do anything major, it got blown out of proportion, and they paid for it.

BE CAREFUL!!!!!!

So, how did things go with talking to her father? I'm insanely curious! Hope things went well man

There's probably a reason why he hasn't replied. Like he's dead.

Either that or her Dad accepted and now he's getting laid. :whistling:

He's getting laid by her dad?

What? No! I meant... Well.... How? That's.... Ugh.

About time someone around here got lucky.

He could be exercising droit de seigneur with his daughter's suitor!

Turns, stop picking those bizarre thoughts from my tongue.

Must. resist. urge....

You could cut the innuendo in this thread with a knife(!).

AND THE MOMENT OF TRUTH, DADADADA . . . everything worked out, aside from a couple of sore bullet wounds. As far as I could tell, everything turned out fine. I am sure that me being a bit older than her was a bit off putting, but like I said, I was honest, up-front, and I think he knows I am not here to take advantage. We had a solid hour long chat about certain guidelines I must abide by, curfew, conduct when in and out of the house, what you would expect. In his words "She could do worse. You seem relatively normal". I think I found a new best friend. No one has ever said such kind things about me. But in all seriousness, I think everything is set. Didn't get a chance to talk to the mother, though I am sure she is going to be filled in in my absence. As for now, take things slow and getting to really know eachother. I've known this girl for a while, been to a few of the same parties and such, but nothing too deep. Probably going to try and set up something for tomorrow, just don't know what that is. So, what you guys think?

I don't recommend it. My buddy is twenty years old, and recently broke up with his sixteen year old girlfriend. I went to hang out with the two of them on several occasions, and I have to say, it was dreadful. Their time together consisted of sitting in a corner at Dunkin Donuts with a bunch of other sixteen and fourteen year olds -- her friends -- laughing about I don't even know what, making odd noises, and discussing various drama and events at school. She was on a strict schedule and had to be home by six every day, and on the weekends she could only go to the mall, so he basically only saw her for an hour every weekday, and a couple of hours every weekend at the mall. Her parents did not know about them, because they would never approve of the relationship, and neither could I. That is no way to maintain a serious relationship with someone. When they broke up, it was because she kissed another guy, because she's "confused"; he cried to me about how he can never maintain a relationship past a month.

I told him it's because he keeps dating teenagers.

That said, I'm three years and four months older than my twenty-year old fiancee, and she was eighteen when we met. I don't want to be a hypocrite. Which is why I say that I don't recommend it, in general, but I'm not giving you a flat-out no way. Just give it a shot, and see where it leads. If you two end up marrying in a couple of years, great. If you two break-up in a couple of months, no big deal, life goes on.

lol. I promise, I was just here to watch a movie, nothing more.

Good for you man. Good luck with the relationship henceforth.

But I have to say, and not because I look down upon it, but I've never understood the whole "talk to the parents" deal.

Hey, I expect a witty response when I'm back from svcker Punch, mkay?

Because all teenagers and their parents are the same. :whistling:

It's mainly a respect thing. The want to gain the parents approval and respect, knowing that they are at least somewhat supportive of the relationship. While I don't necessarily agree with this either, I still do it as a courtesy. Unless I have real reason not to, I am not against it.

Yeah I get that. The whole thing just says to me we still have a mentality where dads own their daughters, but not sons.
There was huge fuzz about our King walking the Princess to the altar as she got married last year, for the same reason.

Anyway, I won't start a big discussion on this. Once again, good luck.

That's good news, dude. It's always a good idea for an of-age to give the parents of the under-age a chance to understand your intentions and the quality of guy you are. I probably should've done that.

I wish you two the best.

Oh hell, this is like when a girl asked me to move up so she could spread (her notes around a desk), and I was torn between my desire to make a smart ass comment and my desire to continue living.

I think you did the right thing. I'm happy for you guys.