Let me start off by saying that I am 19 years old. As of now I have only had 1 serious girlfriend and other than that just a couple of flings. I am currently single and as of a couple months ago this younger girl (16) started showing an interest in me. At the time I just told her that I wasn't looking for a relationship, but kept in contact. She brings this up from time to time, but I never really addressed it and always deflect it one way or another. I have recently run into a problem however. Like I stated, I do talk to this girl on a regular basis. Lately I have been doing this through my friends Facebook, being that I don't have one of my own, and recently she has been without a phone. Said friend has stated since the beginning that we would make a pretty good couple, and despite my avoiding the topic thinks that I am actually interested in her, which wouldn't be a false statement. My problem is with the age difference, more so the ages themselves. 19 and 16 aren't far apart, but that isn't the most convenient relationship I can think of. There are many people who look down upon someone of age, like myself, dating a younger girl, even if she is of consent, not that I am looking into anything like that yet. Back to my problem though. Just about an hour ago my friend apparently took this into his own hands, and under the guise of myself basically told her that I would like to start a relationship. While I find this an evasion of privacy and would have liked to address things on my own, I know he was simply trying to take the step he felt I was too afraid to take, whatever my reasons were. My question is, what do you think I should do? What are you views on my situation? I do like the girl, and I would like to start a relationship if I felt that he would feel like a normal one. Am I making too big a deal of the age situation?

JAHO

I'm nineteen myself and all I can tell you is that I feel too old for sixteen year old girls. I just think three years is a too big gap at such young ages as nineteen and sixteen.

Only if it's legal. Otherwise you tell her the truth.

Also, watch out for April Fools joke, as it is that time of year.

Well, if your to intimidated to ask a 16yo girl out I think what you should do is consider male enhancement.

Its not the age that bothers me, its the fact that you shouldnt date a women you dont even have the fortitude to approach.

Im 22, Robyn is 20.




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I've got a friend who's almost 19 dating a 16 year old girl, and while we beak him all the time about it, I really don't see it as much of a problem. She obviously likes you and from what I can tell you like her. In a year or so it won't even feel like that big of a difference, so I would say go for it.

First, you should light-heartedly tell her that your friend pretended to be you saying that to her. Don't start off hiding a lie.

Then, you should do whatever you want. Simple as that.

As for my opinion on a 19 year old guy dating a 16 year old gal: It's not my business. I should hope any intimacy is understood for what it is, but as simply being special to that person, I don't see a thing wrong with that.

i wouldnt.

I would

When I was younger(18-20) I tended to date girls younger then me, usually 16. I always made sure the parents were fine with it, after that, I didn't give two bits what other people thought. I was 20 when I met my wife who was 16, we were married before she turned 18. We've been together 8 years(which is 8 more years then anyone gave us credit for), and have a very strong, healthy relationship ^^ So, I say, if you like her, and she likes you, go for it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yc5OyXmHD0w

If you have any reasons to doubt your relationship, I personally wouldn't go through with it. If the age gap is a good enough reason for you to not date someone, then you must not be as interested in them as you think. If her father didn't want her dating because she was too young, and would kill you if he saw you, i'd deem that a fairly acceptable reason...simply for the fact that someone could get hurt.ood

A good friend of mine has been dating this girl whos 16 and hes 21. We had a nice chat about it here on the forums a while back...We make fun of him all the time about it, because its just a weird age for her to be at. Hes been dealing with our harassment/ jokes though, because he believes in the relationship.

This. If you like her, and she likes you, who cares? I've been dating the same girl for three years, and she's two years younger than me. The biggest mistake of my life would've been not going out with her because of the age difference.

Well, worst mistake so far. Still plenty of time left.

Listen to this guy. I completely agree with him.

It seems a bit off to me buddy. I'd say you pass on this one. My girlfriend is a year and a half younger, and the difference is certainly noticeable. :shrug:

Here is a handy formula to use in a situation like this:

(Man's Age/2)+7= Age you can date with. (19/2)+7= 16.5.

Yeah, I'll let it slide on this one. I'd say you can date her.

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Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_of_consent#Law

Go for it, I wouldn't really expect it to last long though.

I have a friend whos 16 and was in exactly the same situation as you are (except being the 16 year old obviously).
It definitely depends more on the person than the age.

Been reading the comments. Maybe I was looking into the age thing a bit too much. It wasn't that I technically found a problem with the age difference, it's not like the age difference is astounding. It was that I thought other people might create problems. Having seen many of you stating you don't see much of a problem, I am thinking about going for it. I am going to tell her that I wasn't the one talking to her. And if things proceed I am going to talk to the parents. Other than that it should really be up to us I guess.

It's really, really common for girls in highschool to date guys in college, 19 being on the younger end of that. It all depends on her parents how smoothly it goes.

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I'd wish you good luck, but from your first post, I don't think you'll need it. ^_^

Dating is fine so long as you can both handle the situation maturely

I'd also recommend abstaining from having six because of the age difference (until she's 18 but even then go at the right pace for both you and her)

Also, make sure her parents are cool with it. Surprisingly parents can sometimes be somewhat reasonable (unless her dad has a shotgun then I suggest running rather than talking )

just handle it cool like B)

Just be careful bro. Like they say in my state "16 can get you 20".

I'd say go for it, but a word of advice; you see a gun, you had better run.

This.