Why are you giving Gardenia so much grief? If your opinion is that he/she is too reliant on hand-holding on the forums, that's fine, but you could just avoid threads started by Gardenia. People are comfortable with different levels of difficulty.
I gave one reply based on what R.J. said, and it wasn't directed to Gardenia, and I didn't wish to continue but she responded to it, so I did in turn. I avoided replying to any of the threads apart from some brief answers in the first couple of her(?) threads, although I do read most just to see what the thread is about. I'm not out there get her(?) or doing it for fun, I just couldn't believe this was happening, and that people would be like that, especially for someone who seems somewhat keen to play this game.