I have a friend who pretended to be a lisbian to turn down a guy because she didn't want to hurt his feelings. I've never been turned down like that though.

No, but I have hit on a straight man in a lisbian nightclub, he liked blondes, and I am a brunette. Oh well...
He was the bartender. The music was good, and I went there with friends who happened to be lisbians. Music was great, no one tried to grope me on the dance floor, I had fun dancing with my friends, and I preferred it over most other nightclubs.

I generally told folks who hit on me "no thank you" and didn't elaborate, unless they asked. That includes both genders.

Now that was weirdly specific. What kind of clubs do you visit that warrants this?

This was in the late eighties, early nineties, most straight nightclubs had lame music and men way too drunk and enamored of the eighties trend of treat-your-woman-badly-porm.
Not to mention, I live in a town with a naval base, so there weren't many nightclubs around that didn't have drunken sailors. I have been groped, fondled, had drinks deliberately spilled on my dress, had barfights started because some guy got too frisky, slapped way too many men, and found out that bouncers can be really sweet fellas. Gay clubs back then were the place to go to enjoy yourself.

Oh, okay, that sailor angle is quite enough. People on love cold turkey are not nice when drunk. ^_^

Seems like the opposite of the nightclubs here then. At least one in particular where all the single/married women go to, it's them who grope the younger men. :laugh:

Never happened to me but I thought about using the "Im gay" for an excuse before since that would be a 100% shoot down. Ive had some girls persist to hit on me after I say I have a girlfriend or I am not interested without flat insulting them.




Cougars gota hunt?

Well, cougars are hunters, aren't they?

€: Drat. ^_^

Do you actually know her, or you say you like her only because of the way she looks ?

Move on, I really doubt your school has only 1 girl that you find attractive and a girl that say's something like that to you is probably a self-centered b*tch and you want to avoid that...

Something that I have learned the hard way last year about beautiful girls is that is to never put them on a pedestal, 2 of the most beautiful girls I have ever known turn out to be an ex striper/escort with multiple stories of diseases/lovers and another is a suicidal prone with a really depressing life, but I really had no clue, she hid it very well (I tried to help that one, but shes to caught up in her cage)

Actually since then, my confidence went up toward women, because people are not always what they try to project

Tomorrow walk in with a wig and makeup and ask her out again.

I actually do know her pretty well. After she rejected me we ended up being really good friends for a couple of years before I stopped talking to her. I don't know why I did that all of a sudden. She's more than just a pretty face, as she is really good at biology and plans on taking a career in that field after she does humanitarian work in poor countries. She's easily the nicest person I've ever met, but what really kills me is that her boyfriend is the complete and total opposite of her. He's a loud, binge-drinking, tobacco chewing, weightlifting addict that doesn't hesitate to start a brawl whenever he feels like it. I just don't see any good qualities about him that stand out, and that's what annoys me.

Anyway, I guess I just need to accept the fact that she'll never feel the same way about me.

That's enough of my story though, I feel like I'm taking the thread off course.

I totally agree B) . But I do think you need a certain level of confidence, not so much that a person's cocky and blinded by their own ambitions and ignorance but enough that tells a woman that you know what you're doing.

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:rofl:

I had the exact same reaction when I read what he said.

yeah, i see that a lot at my school,all the Scene girls are like "OMG IM BI, LOL" but you never see them show any interest in Woman.

Also, your'e the coolest/only Transvestite i know :rock:, and your also a Pink Floyd fan so thats a plus.

Well at least you tried. I have zero confidence and wouldn't be able to even try.

think about this, why would she accept a compliment from a man if she "likes" girls? i think she just wanted to make it a civil no. or not, maybe she really does "like" girls. i don't know, never happened to me before as far as i can remember.

edit: i shouldn't be so quick to say she lied... that is just being judgmental. its not impossible that she "likes" girls.

It's still flattering. I don't really think my general idea of a pretty lass is much different from that of most members of the Y-chromosome six. ^_^

Flattery doesn't work on some girls, believe me.

Don't tell me. :meh:

Never happened to me, but recently my weekly West Coast Swing dance class was going on outside, on a patio down some stairs from a bridge instead of inside, and we were short on girls so me and a friend went up to the bridge to see if there would be any girls interested in learning how to dance. So I'm formulating how to ask, make sure to mention that we have instructors, are supported by the city, etc, so I don't come off wrong, and my friend goes straight up to this super hot chick and goes "hey we got a dance party under the bridge. Wanna check it out?" Needless to say, I'm impressed she didn't pepper spray him on the spot, the way he said it. I facepalmed irl.

The way he said it is exactly how to say it. Don't put too much thought into it, it's not the English section of your SAT it's a girl. Just another person. All you have to do is be confident. If you confidently say something half as intelligible as a Shakesperean quote, you'll still manage a positive response from the girl. If you mumble something about autumn, beauty, and dandelions, you'll come off as more of a creep than ever.

Having said that, what did the girls say?

I'm so attractive I turn lisbians straight

.. Or you bear an uncanny resemblance with a girl.