Several updates:
I am not playing dead is dead, and I really just want to feel a sense of power progression. I get that with Oblivion as it is to a degree, but then I encounter a goblin warlord and feel no different. By higher levels, I want to feel like the divine being my character is. At the default difficulty, hacking and slashing at goblins over and over again just becomes tedious. I will be lowering my difficulty slider below 50 at one point in time or another, but perhaps I could also just place a cap on it, such as no lower than 35.
Dead is dead is not the right thing for everyone, especially for anyone with a heavy social, academic, or professional calender. My first characters were reloaded on a regular basis, often because I just got excited and forgot to keep an eye on the health meter. They died with unused health potions in their backpack. Over time you learn what it takes to not only survive but thrive in Cyrodiil.
Angel is the supreme power in her universe despite the fact she has never worn armor or carried a shield. I play dead is dead on default difficulty. She is now at level 40 with over 250 game hours. I don't know the exact count anymore because experimenting with mods has trashed some save-games and I had to back up to recover. The only 'cheating' I have done is to resurrect her horse. She could buy a dozen horses but this one is hers and that makes it special. With her power to control the minds of her foes she can wade through armies and come out the other side virtually untouched.
The quickest way to get to that level is to research the UESPWiki and this General Forum. If things aren't going too well, ask specific questions on the forum.
For me, treating my character as a separate identity that wanted to survive and prosper and then seeing the world from their unique perspective instead of from mine made a major change in the way I play the game. Instead of pushing a crash-dummy around, I was mentoring and guiding someone I cared about. Sometimes, they had the good sense to wait until they were stronger before tackling the bad guys.
There is one thing you should know. The goblins in the tutorial dungeon at the beginning of the game are total wusses. The ones outside are not and their Boss types are very, very bad.