Here's my load order:
00 Oblivion.esm
01 All Natural Base.esm [Version 1.3]
02 Francesco's Leveled Creatures-Items Mod.esm [Version 4.5bSI]
03 Francesco's Optional New Items Add-On.esm [Version 4.5bSI]
04 Cobl Main.esm [Version 1.73]
05 Oscuro's_Oblivion_Overhaul.esm [Version 1.34]
06 Mart's Monster Mod.esm [Version 3.7b3p3]
07 FCOM_Convergence.esm [Version 0.9.9MB3]
08 Kvatch Rebuilt.esm
09 Better Cities Resources.esm [Version 4.9.5]
0A Progress.esm [Version 2.2]
0B CustomSpellIcons.esm
0C HorseCombatMaster.esm
** Cobl Races TNR.esp [Version 1.53]
** Cobl Races TNR SI.esp [Version 1.53]
0D Unofficial Oblivion Patch.esp [Version 3.3.5]
0E Oblivion Citadel Door Fix.esp
0F DLCShiveringIsles.esp
10 Unofficial Shivering Isles Patch.esp [Version 1.4.2]
** MOBS SI.esp [Version 1.2.2a]
11 MOBS SI Optional Combat Settings.esp [Version 1.2.2a]
** Oblivion Vwalk UOS.esp
** DLCShiveringIsles Vwalk UOS.esp
** DLCShiveringIsles Vwalk DG_DS UOS.esp
12 Better Cities .esp [Version 4.7.0]
13 Francesco's Optional Chance of Stronger Bosses.esp
14 Francesco's Optional Chance of Stronger Enemies.esp
15 FCOM_Francescos.esp [Version 0.9.9]
16 FCOM_FrancescosItemsAddOn.esp [Version 0.9.9]
17 FCOM_FrancescosNamedBosses.esp [Version 0.9.9]
18 Fran Armor Add-on.esp
19 Fran_Lv30Item_Maltz.esp
1A Natural_Habitat_by_Max_Tael.esp
1B Ls More Butterflies and Fireflies Not In Interiors 5.0 Quarter.esp
1C All Natural.esp [Version 1.3]
1D All Natural - SI.esp [Version 1.3]
1E All Natural - MMM Patch.esp [Version 1.3]
1F OBGE - Liquid Water.esp
20 Symphony of Violence.esp
21 MIS Low Wind.esp
22 MIS New Sounds Optional Part.esp
23 Atmospheric Oblivion.esp
24 Side's EAX Control.esp [Version 1.0]
25 Rainbows.esp
26 All Natural - Real Lights.esp [Version 1.3]
27 WindowLightingSystem.esp
28 HUDI.esp
29 P-Froggys First Person Body.esp [Version 1.0]
2A PTFallingStars.esp
2B Enhanced Economy.esp [Version 5.2.2]
2C Display Stats.esp [Version 2.0.1]
2D MotionBlur.esp
2E VipCxj_RadarSystem.esp
2F Streamline 3.1.esp
30 Dynamic Map.esp [Version 2.0]
31 Map Marker Overhaul.esp [Version 3.9]
32 Map Marker Overhaul - SI additions.esp [Version 3.5]
33 DLCHorseArmor.esp
34 DLCHorseArmor - Unofficial Patch.esp [Version 1.0.6]
35 ClassyClothingCompendium.esp
36 Zira's Horse Modpack - My Horses.esp
37 Zira's Horse Modpack - Heavy Legion Horses.esp
38 Zira's Horse Modpack - Friesian Horses.esp
39 Zira's Horse Modpack - Extra Horses.esp
3A Zira's Horse Modpack - More Horses.esp
3B Cobl Glue.esp [Version 1.73]
3C Cobl Si.esp [Version 1.63]
3D Bob's Armory Oblivion.esp
3E FCOM_BobsArmory.esp [Version 0.9.9]
3F Oblivion WarCry EV.esp [Version 1.09]
40 FCOM_WarCry.esp [Version 0.9.9MB5]
41 Oscuro's_Oblivion_Overhaul.esp [Version 1.34]
42 OOO-Water_Weeds.esp [Version 1.33]
43 VA_BetterGold.esp
44 Alluring Potion Bottles v3.esp
45 Alluring Wine Bottles.esp
** Oscuro's_Oblivion_Overhaul Vwalk.esp
46 OOO 1.32-Cobl.esp [Version 1.72]
47 OBSE-Storms & Sound SI.esp
48 FCOM_Convergence.esp [Version 0.9.9Mb3]
49 FCOM_RealSwords.esp [Version 0.9.9]
4A FCOM_SpawnRatesReduced.esp [Version 0.9.9Mb3]
4B Mart's Monster Mod - No Bone Loot.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]
4C Mart's Monster Mod - No Undead Rise.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]
4D Mart's Monster Mod - Less Reavers.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]
4E Mart's Monster Mod - Farm Animals.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]
4F Mart's Monster Mod - Diverse WaterLife.esp [Version 3.7b3p3f]
50 Mart's Monster Mod - Diverse Runeskulls Loot OOO.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]
51 Mart's Monster Mod - Shivering Isles.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]
** Fransfemale.esp
52 MMM-Cobl.esp [Version 1.73]
53 wd purse of wonders.esp
** EVE_StockEquipmentReplacer4FCOM.esp
54 Kvatch Rebuilt.esp
55 Kvatch Rebuilt - OOO Compatibility.esp
56 Kvatch Rebuilt - Leveled Guards - FCOM.esp
57 Kvatch Rebuilt Weather Patch.esp
** Kvatch Rebuilt Vwalk.esp
58 LetThePeopleDrink.esp [Version 2.5]
59 24HrArenaAliveV2.esp
5A Knights.esp
5B Knights - Unofficial Patch.esp [Version 1.1]
** Knights Vwalk UOP.esp
5C FCOM_Knights.esp [Version 0.9.9Mb3]
5D xuldarkforest.esp [Version 1.0.5]
5E xulStendarrValley.esp [Version 1.2.2]
5F xulTheHeath.esp
60 XulEntiusGorge.esp
61 xulFallenleafEverglade.esp [Version 1.3.1]
62 xulColovianHighlands_EV.esp [Version 1.2.1]
63 xulChorrolHinterland.esp [Version 1.2.2]
** xulChorrolHinterland Vwalk.esp
64 xulBeachesOfCyrodiilLostCoast.esp [Version 1.6.4]
65 xulBravilBarrowfields.esp [Version 1.3.2]
** xulBravilBarrowfields Vwalk.esp
66 xulLushWoodlands.esp [Version 1.3.1]
67 xulAncientYews.esp [Version 1.4.3]
68 xulAncientRedwoods.esp [Version 1.6]
69 xulCloudtopMountains.esp [Version 1.0.3]
6A xulArriusCreek.esp [Version 1.1.3]
6B xulPatch_AY_AC.esp [Version 1.1]
6C xulRollingHills_EV.esp [Version 1.3.3]
** xulRollingHills_EV Vwalk.esp
6D xulPantherRiver.esp
6E xulRiverEthe.esp [Version 1.0.2]
6F xulBrenaRiverRavine.esp [Version 1.1]
** xulBrenaRiverRavine Vwalk.esp
70 xulImperialIsle.esp [Version 1.6.6]
** xulImperialIsle Vwalk.esp
71 xulBlackwoodForest.esp [Version 1.1.0]
72 xulCheydinhalFalls.esp [Version 1.0.1]
73 KvatchRebuilt-CheydinhalFalls patch.esp
74 xulAspenWood.esp [Version 1.0.2]
** xulAspenWood Vwalk.esp
75 xulSkingradOutskirts.esp [Version 1.0.1]
** xulSkingradOutskirts Vwalk.esp
76 xulSnowdale.esp [Version 1.0.2]
77 OOO-Snowdale Patch.esp
78 xulCliffsOfAnvil.esp
79 OOOCliffsofAnvilPatch.esp [Version 1.0]
** xulCliffsOfAnvil Vwalk.esp
7A FCOM_UnofficialFranArmorAddon.esp [Version 0.9.9]
7B Better Cities - House price patch.esp [Version 1.0]
7C Harvest [Flora].esp [Version 3.0.0]
7D Harvest [Flora] - Shivering Isles.esp [Version 3.0.0]
7E ANB_Item_Switchers.esp
7F BlackScreenSneakFix.esp
80 FewerOBGatesNOCLOSE.esp
81 Oblivifall - Ambiant Dungeon SFX.esp [Version 1.2]
82 P1DkeyChain.esp [Version 5.00]
83 Enhanced Vegetation [110%].esp
84 Toggleable Quantity Prompt.esp [Version 3.2.0]
85 Wayshrines Improved.esp
86 Enhanced Economy - House prices.esp [Version 1.0]
87 WPHealthRegen.esp [Version 1.0]
88 RealisticHealth.esp
89 Kyoma's Spell Renamer.esp [Version 3.0.1]
8A EnchantmentRestore.esp
8B attack and hide easier v2.1.esp
8C RenGuardOverhaul.esp
8D DRSplatter.esp
8E Duke Patricks - Actors Can Miss Now.esp
8F Grandmaster of Alchemy.esp
90 RealisticLeveling.esp
91 Atmospheric Loading Screens - No Text.esp
92 AMB.esp
93 bgBalancingEVCore.esp [Version 10.52EV-D]
94 Slof's Oblivion Better Beasts.esp
95 bgMagicEV.esp [Version 1.7EV]
** bgMagicEV Vwalk.esp
96 bgMagicSpellTomes_for_WryeBash.esp [Version 1.68EV]
97 bgMagicItemSigil.esp [Version 1.68EV]
98 bgMagicEVStartspells.esp [Version 1.68EV]
99 bgMagicBonus.esp [Version 1.7EV]
9A bgMagicEVAddEnVar.esp [Version 1.68EV]
9B bgMagicEVPaperChase.esp [Version 1.68EV]
9C bgMagicPotionNumberSoulGemValue.esp [Version 1.68UV]
9D bgBalancingEVOptionalClasses.esp [Version 9.0EV-U]
9E bgBalancingEVOptionalBetterRedguards.esp
9F bgBalancingEVOptionalFCOMAdditions.esp [Version 10.]
** bgBalancingOptionalNPCDiversityKvatchRebuilt, for Wrye Bash.esp [Version 9.0EV-D]
A0 bgBalancingEVLAMEAddition.esp [Version 10.51EV-D]
A1 bgBalancingEVLAMEGlue.esp [Version 10.0EV-D1.62EV]
A2 bgBalancingEVOptionalNPCDiversityLAME.esp [Version 10.5EV-D]
A3 ArgonianFeets.esp
A4 Better Cities Full.esp [Version 4.9.5]
A5 Better Cities - VWD of the IC.esp [Version 4.7.0]
A6 Better Imperial City.esp [Version 4.9.5]
A7 Better Cities Full FPS Patch.esp [Version 4.9.5]
A8 Better Cities - All Natural.esp [Version 4.9.5]
A9 Better Cities Full Vwalk.esp
AA Better Cities - Unique Landscape Barrowfields.esp [Version 4.9.5]
AB Better Cities - Unique Landscape Chorrol Hinterland.esp [Version 4.8.4]
AC Better Cities - Unique Landscape Cheydinhal Falls.esp [Version 4.8.1]
AD Better Cities - Unique Landscape Skingrad Outskirts.esp [Version 4.9.1]
AE Better Imperial City Vwalk.esp
AF Better Imperial City FPS Patch.esp [Version 4.9.1]
B0 Better Cities - COBL.esp [Version 2.1]
B1 Better Cities - Unique Landscape Imperial Isle.esp [Version 4.8.1]
B2 Alternate Start Revamped.esp
B3 MRP - Loading area.esp
B4 Brighter Torches.esp [Version 1.4.0]
B5 BetterExplosions.esp
** bgMagicEVShader.esp [Version 1.7EV]
B6 bgMagicShaderLifeDetect.esp [Version 1.68]
B7 MiniMap.esp
B8 DeadlyReflex 6 - Combat Moves.esp
B9 Bashed Patch, 0.esp
I have Really AEVWD installed too, just none of the ESP's.