My 13 years old daughter (who starts, quite to my worry, looking like 15-16), is claiming she is an 'emo'. She tried to explain me but it is quite confuse.

Is my mind experiensing a beginning of Alzheimer ?
Is emo a chult (half child half advlt, it's how I call teenagers) experiencing that classic hormonal hurricane like I have the feeling ?
Is there an emo doctrine ?
Should I expect any trouble other than the common chult troubles ?

Give me light if you can, I passed through chult age without belonging to any group, hippies or punk or newage or whatever, I hated that. Was I an emo myself ?

A group of white, mostly middle-class well-off kids who find imperfections in there life and create a ridiculous, depressing melodrama around each one. They often take anti-depressants, even though the majority don't need them. They need to wake up and deal with life like everyone else instead of wallowing in their imaginary quagmire of torment.

It's sort of like a goth, but more whiny and concerned about being "non-conformist", which is pretty hypocritical seeing as how they all seem to be conforming with eachother...

Probably something to do with being a teen. Wanting to find a place amongst peers, insecurity, etc. It seems to me like something they'll look back at and cringe later on life, like getting married.

Yup, youth group. It's the Goth of the 'Nil years, pretty much. Except their music is way harder to recognise, and they are not conservatively rebellious but absolutely non-conformist rebellious.

She might be one if this were 2003...

Its me but with an O instead of a Z...

I stared at this for several minutes wondering what the hell you were talking about before seeing you username...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emo

It's a genre of music/sort of a culture.

The people that consider themselves emo generally don't do things like wrist cutting/ect. but some of them do of course,from the little I know personally about them most look down on people who do the sort of thing.

In short it's just her being a teenager and wanting to fit in,she will probably want to dye her hair and change her wardrobe(as money allows) but really it isn't any major thing.

Well, as usual, you have to deal with the stereotype and then what your daughter actually is. "Emo" Has become (or always was, I don't remember) more of a negative title, implying wrist-cutting and overuse of black eyeliner. There are a few different "shades" of emo and you'll kind of have to see which one she turns out to be.

The fact that she's "claiming" emo sounds like a cry for attention. Usually people fall into these cliques as opposed to decide to become one. It's probably just a phase and I'd venture to say there may be a motive behind it, (maybe she likes some emo kid and wants to get closer?) I'd definitely ask her about it, and find out what her "motivations" are for "becoming" an emo. Again, the clique normally picks you, not the other way around.


And not to be confused with: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emu

According to the internet a person who wearing ugly clothing(skinny jeans), large puffy hair from the 80's usually colored, lots of useless plastic bracelets/rubber bands.... usual teenage fad crap...


Also have a habit of self mutilation... cutting

The culture of music "Emo" is always confused with the mental detrimental temperament of being emo..

As said above,that's not really associated with emos any more.

At this point it's generally just the kids who don't think they can be cool without giving into a group,some of them are the whiny pill poppers but most of them just want to be accepted into a group(though there's nothing to say they won't pick up the behavior themselves given time).

Emo has existed since the late eighties...


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It's just another subculture :shrug: The worst you'll have to suffer is her listening to some awful music.

Good luck man.

I wonder though, how much of this could be avoided with parents who raise kids like I was raised. Not saying your are doing it wrong, just saying there is more than one way.

But anyway, good luck.

I personally would be a little bit worried, and would start asking some questions, The way I was raised there is hardly nothing a family dinner and family time won't fix, and if that fails. Well a belt or switch always got the point across to me and my sister at least.

I think parents now days are spend less time acting like a parent and more time giving into the main stream media and the wants of kids. I am not really sure if this is the best thing to do though.

One thing I would do if I was you is realize the early teen and late teen (I have been around many) years are likely as bad as the terrible twos, if not worse.

I think you should make it a point to let her know you are the parent, and she is the child. You are the boss and in control, not her.

It's the usual. Annoying teenage fad-group confused between the standard conflicting teenage needs of rebelling and fitting in, and the even more annoying reaction of bandwagon-jumping haters who despise them for not being part of their little culture.

Why is this something that needs to be avoided...?

Its nothing to worry about, she will grow out of it as soon as she matures a bit.

Short answer: Emos are teenagers who like crying.

Long answer: Emos are teenagers who like crying while at the same time having difficulty wiping their tears because of their hair getting in the way.

An emo is a speed bump in a chain bookshop. Every time I go to Borders there are "emos" sitting on the floor treating the business as a library.

Generally, from those who claim to be "emo" you get a more reactivate whine bag of a person. Who cries or whines about everything, rebels and makes a mockery of them selfs.

I have seen how these kids around here talk to their parents, completely disrespectful. Always "want, want, want" and the parents just give in and let it go.

What does that teach? that if you whine and cry enough you get what you want in life? The most respectful people I have met have been others raised like me, or Mennonites.

The Mennonites around here are the most respectful hard working people I have ever met in my life, ever.

Never seen a disrespectful, or emo Mennonite.

Parents now days just give in to the child every little want and pout, I can bring up some first hand examples right now of people like there and where they are.
I personally think that kids now days would be better off if they where made to work and help around the house like I was, thought respect and made to attend family dinners at least two to three nights a week.

Not out running around unsupervised, or watching T.V or playing games all the time. Nothing wrong with those things, but it needs to be in moderation.

Parents need to be parents, not friends. Trust me the kids will thank you for it latter. I know I am thankful I was raised how I was raised.

:shrug: Almost seems better than that werewolf fad teenagers in San Antonio are doing.

Basically, it's a type of music. Originating from the word Emotional. Basically, it's puberty mixed with pop-culture. Usually occurs in kids who listen to this genre of music.

It encourages emotional behavior, and includes a certain type of fashion. Mostly Black hair and clothing. Dark Make-up, etc. But may include others, depending on her personal inspiration.

Often, Emo's resort to self-cutting, as a form of catharsis. This is what the emo-stereotype is infamous for, however not all 'emos' partake in this. They do this when emotionally distressed, and they don't know what to do. Again, usually its puberty, showing an ugly form of itself.

Emo is indeed what most young teenagers claim to be, they're simply following the fad though. It's the rebellious feeling inside them taking shape. She may act slightly eccentric. Im not a father, so I don't know what to do, neither do I know her personally, so I can't offer advice on that aspect. But I can say, try and be okay with her most of the time. Unless she does something truly outrageous. They thrive of others freaking out over their behavior and drawing attention to themselves by making themselves appear distressed. Don't fuel those two, and she should be back before you know it.

Note: Im no doctor, Emo expert, or anything. Im just a regular 17 year old with an understanding, my advice may or may not work, it's just my judgement, and cannot be certain for how much of it yields true. Hope I helped in some way though.

We are, as they say old buddy, "not.clued.in"


This sounds about right, from what little I know. Which is little.


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Ah.. Grunge. Okay, now I can make a semi valid comment on this.


She's grow out of it.

sidenote: I wonder what my son's generation will come up with in ten years time (He's five next week Tuesday.)