plus the install seems differnet some people say install eve complete and mm and ooo add ons others say just install eve fcom even thopugh I don't us fcom it just seem that fcom is aweful small download compared to the ooo andmmm eve ones please help thanks
You need all, but you don't use all.
A mod is made up of resources (meshes, textures, icons, sounds, etc) and (usually) an ESP file to tell the game how to use those resources (meshes, textures, sounds, etc).
You need the resources from EVE complete, and from eve for OOO and EVE for MMM, because otherwise you will have no EVE meshes, textures, etc for the game to manage-- but you don't need the ESP from those files, you need the ESP from EVE FCOM, because that ESP is the only one that tells the game how to use the
combined resources of EVE and EVE OOO and EVE MMM at the same time as OOO and MMM together. OOO and MMM are the main components of FCOM, which is why you're told to use that ESP, even though you're not using FCOM itself.
So you have to install all of them, but uncheck the ESP from all of them
except for the EVE FCOM ESP.
MMMforOOO config - use the fcom version below. and load after MMMforOOO.esp in load order. Make sure to have EVE vanilla/ OOO/MMM resources installed has well
(Does that about cover it, CorePC?

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