Ok, so i still have the problem, but thought i would give others some fixes for the problem.
All of these have worked for someone.
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Re-install/verify cache if you pre-loaded
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Update drivers
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Give the .exe admin rights and/or run in compatibility mode
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Apply the beta patch of fallout 4. Click fallout 4 in steam -> properties -> betas
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Disable steam overlay (reported to work by multiple sources)
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Tweak fallout4.prefs into the following:
bBorderless=1
bFull Screen=1
iSize H={your resolution}
iSize W={your resolution}
If someone can give additional tips & tricks, would appriciate, as it is rather painful to hear others playing and not being able to even see the first loading screen yourself