Today's events for me weren't and sunny and nice but filled with despair and an irrational step mother. Let me elaborate while I explain the tales of today.

There is some information you need to know first.
In my family in Florida includes my step mom , dad and two sisters. My step mom seems to be in almost total control of the family, my dad rarely disagrees with her most likely fearing her wraith or sorts. Even if he doesn't disagree with her , he has made her snap unintentionally by the dumbest of things , example buying a wrong brand of food and flipping out on him for no reason. Whenever she becomes angry he says it's all his fault and doesn't stand up for himself in these situations . Normally my step mom will flip out in over the top manner once to twice a month. Besides the rare flip outs she seems like a normal mother for the most case she is. Also , note the same things that maybe lead to a flip out once for her don't always lead to her flipping out again.


Ok today me , Geri and Daphne (sisters age 11 and 6) , my dad and step mother went to the airforce museum in Florida. Were planned to go the beach afterwards.
On my way there I was listening to music with my eyes shut and showing no emotion or distress of going to the musuem ( this information is critical) I enjoyed the museum very much.

Anyhow let me speed up the story, while ending the tour of the air force museum in Florida my sister Daphne was bugging my step mom for a toy in the gift shop.( normally Daphne bugs her for a toy in any gift shop so this is common place). We walked around the gift shop for a few minutes and Daphne's whining grew more and more . She was on the edge of tears and had to be told many times to follow us out of the museum . ( normally when she doesn't get want she does the same thing) We were planned to see some other planes around the Museum when Daphne started crying normally my step mom can handle this and happens on a quite normal basis . My step mom spoke strongly stop crying now and Daphne started to die down on the crying. My step mom said about thirty seconds later something about getting ready for the beach or something to do with the beach. Then Daphne said , " I don't want to go the beach" in a monotone voice. This is where the [censored] hits the fan, out of nowhere my step mom starts screaming " I'm sick of you acting like a spoiled brat , sick of it ! Sick of it! That includes you two little spoiled brats as well! Your going to have fun because I said so got it?" Then she turns back towards the car and continuing yelling " That's it in the car we are going home! When you guys get home you go in your rooms with no tv, computer music or anything ! " During all of this is happening my dad just walks with her and mindlessly agrees with her .

On our way back on the car it was dead silent , the only things I did was cry , text my mom about what was happening and support and listen to music. When I got home I sat in my room just like my sisters and played video games and went onto my computer ( my door was shut and my step mom stayed in her room for most of the day) Later we had dinner and it seemed everything was ok and fine , after dinner I went to my room for an half hour , then exited my room to walk around a minute or two and hear my youngest sister Daphne talk about what happened and asked why I was in trouble, my dad said because I was acting poorly and whining on the way to the museum and during when we were in the museum. I come up to the table where my dad and two sisters where and briefly told him that I had fun at the museum and did nothing wrong , then he said I was whining on the way there which I wasn't I was listing to my Ipod and had my eyes shut. I go back into the room and don't leave until I do dishes , I notice that Geri the older of the sisters was crying , we did the dishes for a little and she went to the bathroom for most likely to wipe her eyes off most likely. We continue to do the dishes when she gets back and right after the dishes are done I asked what did she tell you ( by "she" I meant her mom , my step mom) She said was going to bed with no explanation . After that I went into my room and started to type a thread which you are reading right now.

The thing is this is the second time this has happened this month and she has acted every once in a while like this in the past, normally I didn't pay attention what happened in the past to make her angry but now I am seriously worried about my sisters, dad and even her. I don't know what psychological problems she might or might not have. What causes this extreme anger from something she could normally handle without worry. Just the way she acted and spoke scared me and my sisters. My dad just agrees or does nothing to stop her. I just don't know what to do, call child protective services , talk to her or my dad , do nothing, suggest therapy .I sure hope this isn't her just having her period or something or I'll look foolish. I just don't know and it's killing me what should I do , I love my sisters and my dad and don't want them hurt in any form because of this........I'm so so confused what should do .

If you had the patience to read through the full thing thank you and I would be more grateful if you gave me any sort of advice or any kind.

I just read all of that. That breaks my heart to hear that, you shouldn't have to deal with stuff like that at all. It is one think for a parent to get angry, but she shouldn't be taking it out on the kids. She should have at least apologized too. I think you should go see a counselor do discuss the issue. Or better yet, send your step-mom to anger management.

An odd thing to add , my sister Daphne came in before dinner and after we got home and asked if I said sorry to Mommy, I nearly broke into tears there.

Sounds like your step mother lets her aggression build, and bam, lets it all go when her tank reaches full. Obviously something is bothering her that she feels she can't talk to anyone around her about, and she's mis-directing it, as is shown by her punishing all the kids, instead of just the one offending. Maybe you could pull her aside and ask what's bothering her. Might help both of you to air your grievances, and ultimately help you build a stronger relationship with her.

Woah. That is not good. You need to send that woman to anger management or something. Because that is not right at all!

@ Eindecker, that sounds like a great idea. I think that would help, or at least ease some of the tension so she can gradually open up or something.

She could be mentally unstable but who isn't these days? Sounds like a typical family unit, when I was a youngin' me and my brothers would all get the blame if one of us was being annoying ... An AOE blame if you will. I wouldn't worry too much unless her anger gets out of hand (wielding a frying pan, say).

Also,

Don't things like this usually occur on trips? I mean, being cooped up in a car all day going to and fro can definitely take a toll on your mood. (if that makes sense)

We were only in the car an hour , we had AC nothing felt bad I guess. I just find it soo I don't have words for it that she wanted us to apologize to her after she flipped out.

Sounds like she needs anger management or even as far as therapy.

You shouldn't have to apologize. None of you should of (had to) apologiz(ed). Oh and I think you should talk to your dad about why he is so passive about this. Pull him aside one day, and politely talk with him why he doesn't support the kids and you more.

Parents svck, my mom used to explode like that when I was a little kid. It's tough, I'm sorry.

It may not be you, may be work is stressful, the relationship with your dad is stressful, yada yada. Some people are just bad with kids, have no patience. Not much you can do, really, except tell your parents what you think and find ways to stay out of the house, with a friend or whatever, as much as possible.

Maybe she is using the vice grip called the "bedroom"?
But if she is that bad he needs to do something.

People respond different to stress, and what it sounds like she needs is someone to confide in.

I for one, am so sick of issues being blamed on periods or something.
As a parent, I am going to give you my two cents worth.
Daphne is a whiny brat, your stepmother had a nice outing planned, no one appreciates anything she does. Your stepmother is frustrated.
What Daphne needs is to stay her whiny behind out in the car with Dad, who needs to grow some balls, and discipline his children, instead of making their stepmother the bad guy.

She's never going to be appreciated, and I pity your stepmother.
Next outing, Daphne shows her little ass, then it's an immediate exit with Dad, while the rest of you have good time.

Stepmother is never going to replace Mom. She knows this. You know this. Your mother knows this.
If your family cannot respect her enough to behave in public, don't bother going out.

Yeah, I wouldn't want to see her go off even more.

How's about this.
What the issue really is, is that Stepmom wanted to have a good time. The OP's little sister didn't behave. Dad didn't do his job as a parent.
Stepmom had to. Dad won't, and Mom isn't there. The OP didn't get to go to the beach, he didn't get to have his way, he didn't get what he wanted. No wonder the woman got pissed off. It's so convenient for everyone else to turn it all on her.

Thank you.
Someone had to say it.
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As for your issue, not sure what to tell you.

Tell your dad to man up.

That...has to be the worst bloody advice I have ever seen.

It doesn't matter if she's frustrated, she has no right whatsoever to take it out on her children, let alone anyone else's.

Of course nobody will appreciate what she does if that's how she behaves. She's just getting exactly as much respect and appreciation as she deserves.

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Woa I didn't mean to offend with the period . I am not a woman I really didn't meant to offend , I just don't know possibly in rare cases a more abnormal reaction would happen. . Also my sisters she is their mother to them , she is my step mother . So my sisters are technically half sisters. And yes I agree Daphne is a whiny brat that is 100% true. And when you said next time Daphne acts that way out to the exit with dad part , they tell Daphne that but rarely they ever go along with it. It just surprises me normally she can handles this but out of nowhere she starts screaming in public and yell at the other two siblings who had done nothing wrong and suspects later that we "appologize" to her. Sure Daphne should defiantly apologize but me and my sister who were looking forward the museum and beach getting yelled at because she thought we weren't.

Physical abuse? Jesus Christ, could you misinterpret sarcasm any worse?

Not every problem is solved by the breath of a lamb. Sometimes people need a good smack to wake them up. I've needed one, and gotten many, in my life, and it's helped me.
You don't go up to a raging lunatic and say, "uhh..excuse me sir..uh..but..could you please..uh..stop doing what you're doing..sir?"
You smack them. Sometimes that' what it takes to get through to people. I bet you've needed a good smacking sometime in your life before. We all have. And by smacking, I don't mean what you call "physical abuse" for god's sake. I'm talking standing up to someone and telling a raging lunatic, "Hey, you're a raging lunatic. You make everyone around you miserable."

hmm, how do you pronounce "Geri"? I've never heard/seen a name spelled like that.

also, maybe you should just tell your dad and sisters to leave your mom alone for the next few days. Give her time to cool off.

Wow, are you serious? After reading the OP you honestly can't see that his stepmother is a bit different than normal human beings as far as being completely insane goes?

Welp, my parents have never been like that, but I can tell you my gal's mom is similar if not much worse.

That said, there isn't much advice I can give. Seriously, anyone who says therapy has never tried to convince someone to enter into therapy.

Okay, so the kid is bratty. Kids can be little turds. As a parent, you should know how to handle them.

Honestly, your situation doesn't sound all that bad, but your dad does need a new pair.

Well, to be honest, I only got spanked once as a child, and yes, I deserved it. By admitting that you've gotten smacked plenty of times before, and deserved it, that tells me that you respond differently to situations then I. I prefer to talk it out, you go the physical route.

My parents spanked me and my sister as kids, and we're both glad, as advlts, of our parents parental behavior towards us. It taught us lessons we probably wouldn't have learned otherwise. So yeah, I guess you're right.