I've "only" tried:
- different versions of d3d9.dll in the game folder or removing it altogether
- with and without the multi thread limiting tweak in fallout3.ini
- windowed mode and full screen mode
- disabling my secondary screen
- switching to another sound card
- disabling all GOTY data files; I have no other mods
My HW is i7-3770k, Asus P8Z68-V Pro Gen3, 16 GB RAM, GTX 560 Ti, Asus Xonar Essence One.
Running Win7-64 and most recent drivers from nVidia as well as all updates from Microsoft. Nothing else crashes.
I'm a software architect myself, and would put a bullet to my brain had I released something of this quality. This is just ridiculous. How can you not make a game that doesn't crash or freeze or explode for half of the people?
Daggerfall was rock solid compared to this.