Say the situation isn't serious at all. No one is hurt, no one is in the hospital. It isn't a life or death situation.

Say you have a friend. You believe they are your friend and like some of us unfortunately. We are oblivious and naive. We don't know them for who they really are.

Say that your friend wants you to help with something that isn't important at all. Well, lets define not important.

A hobby, like a video game or coding or modding on the PC. It doesn't matter what the hobby is. Just insert yourself into a situation. You may have gone through a similar experience.

Out of many examples of having a friend rage at you.

Say they know someone who is their friend who has nothing to do with you. They have this friend high on a pedestal. They can't help their buddy but you can. However you realize that helping their buddy is a waste of time and you're not comfortable with the task. So, they rage at you saying that person has gone out of their way for them and that it is imperative that you help and that they are really hacked off at you. However, the friend making demands has really never been there for you.

Is it right for that person to than turn around and berate you?

And when they berate you, it makes you feel that your friendship was mainly based on their hobbies and their benefits. Also, how would you feel if your so called friend was placing the other person higher on the ladder than you? That your just the person that is present for their benefit and amusemant?

Would you be okay with that?

So, just to make sure I understand.

A friend you help out a lot that never helps you back, asks you to help their other friend that means a lot to them and that you don't really know and you don't see it being worth the hazzle.

Your friend then rages at you claiming that you owe them when you obviously don't. And in the end you just feel used.

Is that correct?

Correct.

I'd give them a bit of time to apologize, but they don't sound like much of a friend. (We all have bad days.)

I would never expect my "A" friend to help my "B" friend in this situation. If they said no, I'd be fine with that and understand. Your "friend" should respect you enough to have just said "ok thanks anyway" and left it at that.

Ok, well that would depend on the situation, I'm the kind of guy that will help people who need help if I can, of course if it's a "my friend needs all of your money so he can spend it on lottery tickets to cover his debt that he got into because he bought to many lottery tickets." kind of situation I would probably back out.

If it was a "Hey, my friend needs a dollar for the bus" then sure, of course if I knew perfectly well that my friend had a dollar to spare himself, and more dollars total than me, I'm not sure if I would. It boils down to wether my friend was asking me to help because he was unwilling or unable to help himself.

Luckily I don't really have friends like that, but if I did, I would say no, and if it turned into a regular thing I would probably go and hang out with somebody else.

I'd likely just tell them to [censored] off.

Thinking about it though, I wouldn't be friends with a person like that for very long anyway.

I wouldn't bother with a so called "friend" that treated you like that and basically uses you Jupiter. Seems like a very one sided friendship where you're expected to do anything asked of you and it's not reciprocated. People really don't need friends like that although we all have them at some point, just a question of how long it takes to see through them and what they really are.

If it's just a situation of "hey, I got a buddy that can help", I don't see the issue. But I don't know what the exact situation is, and either way, if you don't feel comfortable doing it, you don't have to. That's your right and your friend should respect that.

For your friend to react in the way he did seems rude, and if he has never done anything for you as a friend, it would be unjust. Not a very good friend. I would introduce him to my lovely friend on my left hand that is the bird. Even more so if you feel as if you're a third wheel or you're just being used.