You know I actually was in a relationship with this girl that texted a lot (or was on the phone most of the time)

I was afraid, that at some point in the relationship, I would just snap and grab her phone and snap it in two or something. :laugh:

I can't stand it. It's like you're with someone but they aren't there so it's like they might as well not be there at all.

She's either mad at you or cheating on you. Let her know she must report to you within (arbitrary number) of hours or you'll freak out, or just ask a friend to stalk her to make sure she's not with some other guy.

1. Stop being so dependent on technology.
2. It's called 'space'. Give her some. Not everyone is free all the time throughout the day. Set up a time you talk to her on the phone or Skype or whatever, and stick to that.

Hang in there, bro.

Edit: Step 2 is ofcourse in supplement to usual dates and stuff, not a replacement.

Women! *throws hands in air and stomps off*

This has to be the most insignificant, facepalm inducing relationship thread I've seen on this forum, and that is saying a lot.

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Yes. Chill out, mannnnn. Get off her dike (<-- is this last word suppose to be uncensored?).

Bloody hell, until now I thought you were in your sixties.



I do wonder how people coped, say, ten years ago. When nobody had mobiles and landlines were expensive, internet barely used. I must seem to exist in a social void to some people, refusing to use technology that wasn't used before 1995. And yet I seem to do fine.

I wouldn't be surprised if you actually do better.

Are you dating or is she your serious girlfriend? Have you discussed if you're seeing other people or not? How old are you?

I require answers to these questions before I can answer.

So you're seeing this girl who isn't hounding you constantly about trivial things....And you DON'T like it?

Something is backwards here...

I don't own a cellphone, and I do just fine.

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Back to the topic though, my brother is constantly texting his girl friend. I think they're so isolated in their relationship that they're forced to know what the significant other is doing at all times. I see it as a vice in some sorts.

Don't worry so much, it's bad for your health. Let her do her things and she will get back at you when she has the time, don't freak out.

I text with my girlfriend every day, but when I started dating her I was being consistent in my non-consistency. She would text me during the afternoon, and I would respond whenever I felt like it and had the time for it, sometimes it took up to three hours because I didn't have much worthwhile to say. She's okay with it and has a busy schedule, so she doesn't have the opportunity to text me back immediately either. Besides that, the only things we really text about are "how is your day going so far", "I'm doing this and that", "I'm worried about school/work/internship" and so on. Trivial things as you can see, if there is really a thing we need to get off our chest or something that's troubling us, we text each other about that we need to talk about something, we set a time in the evening and we either see each other or have a decent conversation over the phone.

well, it is a name.... :shrug:

All I can say is grow up. It's only texting, sheesh. People don't have to be at someones beck and call 24/7. So she doesn't return a text, are you really that paranoid?

You know how stupid you sound right? If you are texting that would mean you are using a cell phone. Why not call her instead? Like actual talk you know? If you want communitcation then call her if you can't be with her. Texting is so impersonal, just because it might seem almost everyone does it, not everyone likes it. Maybe she is one of them. It seems you have some insecurity problems, and I would try and get over it.

Again, call her. Use your voice. Grow up, you sound so young, maybe it's just your immaturity. Don't knocking you down, you just need to realize texting is not really a way of keeping in touch. Actually being with people is how you keep in touch. When you can't be with persoanlly with other people we use something called the Telephone. Now we have cell phones to be more convienent. Funny thing is, people don't acutaly use the cell phone anymore to talk to people.

Look at my sig. I read it here on the BSF and laughed so much I had to sig it.

Suggestions for coping?

Are you kidding? It wasn't really so long ago that there was no such thing as texting.

Pretty much this.
Also, inappropriate laugh at the use of "Piece" .

Holy crap, did someone take a dump in your breakfast? Is anyone ever this blunt when you make various threads asking questions that could easily and quickly be resolved with a Google search? No, because we're here to help you with things you don't understand and we're not gonna be mean about it because we're all at different levels of understanding.

Anyway, I can see why the OP might be a bit irked about this habit, but it shouldn't be anything to worry about unless this is a sudden change or she is defensive about not telling you what she is up to. If you've just started the relationship, you will go through growing pains where they will do things you don't quite understand yet and they will seem strange. Like when I first began talking to and getting interested in my fiance, he would say "anyway" a lot. For example, he would mention something and I would make a joke about it and he would laugh and say "anyway," and continue. The way I grew up, it's extremely rude to say that because it comes off as you not caring about what the other person thinks and I would get people doing that to me a lot. After he and I finally admitted we liked each other and even when we didn't know for sure but were suspecting it, I grew to learn that he didn't mean it in a rude way; he just was raised with that speech habit. I'm glad I never confronted him about it, but I just waited for a while to see if I noticed a pattern emerging or to better understand him. We laugh about that misunderstanding even four years later.

My point is to just sit it out and see if it's something you can come to understand. A lot of people will stop texts after a while and leave gaps. Personally, I would say "I have to go ________; talk to you when I'm done!" which is why I can understand how not doing so might come off as not caring enough about you. But you will find with this girl that she will show she cares in her own way, and when you've been dating for a while, she may start that habit because you guys wi have a long, ongoing conversation that never really ends.

I hope to have a girlfriend one day that has no cell-phone.

JAHO

Heh, the way I've always seen it, saying that is actually jocularly calling attention to what the other person says, through pretending to dismiss it.

No relationship thread is complete without this piece of advice. Thank you.

Devote three-4 hours of every day to never texting her unless texted to. during these hours, make the preparations to do something romantic for her. Write a love-letter, prepare a surprise for her, something productive.

Oh my God, that's terrible. I hope you come through this tragedy OK.

Hey if you don't want her I'll take her. I've been on the hunt for someone that won't text me everyday (I abhor texting)


Also remember the great words of the famous Holy Assassin. You've registered a relationship with BGSF. It's following you to the grave.






(I sure as hell hope I got that quote partially right. Took me a while to remember it.)

[censored] really ? :shakehead:

i lol'd.

Sorry but this is just absurd .

like IHaveAFatDog said


and since that doesn't appear to be the case get used to it , not everyone is the same .