I'm really not convinced by that at all, at least the gore part anyway, maybe you have a point that I just can't see. Part of me thinks that having a distaste for realistic gore is in fact more mature behavior and the desire to see realistic injuries is 'adolescent' behavior (for want of a better term).
I had to read this a couple of times to get what you were saying. Yes that was my point that you just can't see it. Many of us want realistic experience where all the weapons hit with what is close to the real world as possible so we are fooled that what were doing isn't really a game. This is role players. Then you have people who play say gears of war and fallout who love over the top gore and have essentially been decentitized to it all because they have had massive exposer to it by the media and movies. Then you have a very small group that craps there pants and goes on fox talking about how un healthy video games are and basically ruin it for everyone which makes us the community make the content our selves with mods. Finally you have the 4th group, you are like us before we saw all this gore and played games like dead space, gears of war and mass effect two and world at war ect. Your views can be attributed to your parents who likely feel this way even about oblivion and other games of that nature.
So if you go to page 7 and read what I said you will see if we just make a suggestion that appeals to all parties except the crap your pants fox team everyone wins. I think games should completely ignore the media if it gets into that. It has already been scientifically proven that recreation gaming is harmless. But thats another thread and another topic.
Can you find anything wrong with giving 3 options with the default option being the lowest level of gore possible and quest item underwear so you couldn't drop it. The second option being similar but with realistic weapon effects and magic. The third meant for people who can actually buy m rated games and would want to see the highest level of ralism possible where if you drop everything your wearing your naked. People in game would acknowledge that you are laugh at you ect.