Been married almost 30 years.

Good times, bad times, they have all been there. 2 kids, 4 grandkids, The one thing that held us together thru it all, was our determination. It really was that. We knew we loved each other when were young. I was only 20, he was 25.

He balanced me, and I balanced him. I'm more of the "lets go get em" he's more of the anolytical type that wants to take his time.

so now,with our divorce rate so high. Are there couples that really stick to it?

tried to make this poll as open as I can. Suggestions?

4 years and 1 kid into it, and we're still happy. Me and the wife argue a bit, but it's always about small things, and it's always over in a few minutes. Seems pretty par for the course.

awww. that's awesome. Yeah we argued alot the first couple years. Now we have run out of things to argue about.

thanks for responding

I am with someone (not married) and they keep talking about it but I refuse to even remotely think about it. There are too many issues for me to even have any hope for that in the future. They also talk about children which I also avoid. I think I may end up single for quite some time which is fine by me, it is more freedom and I have always been independant so I am used to it.

Me and her have been together almost 13 months now and the last quarter of it if not slightly more has not been all that happen. Sure there were moments but overall no. Can't bring myself to leave her though even though I probably should, which sounds mean when the full situation isn't explained, but if it was I could be considered right.

Your instincts are right. Never ever marry someone that you have deep questions about. It does not end well. I get the fact the whole thing wasn't explained, and I know this is a public forum. But you do what is best for you. Never do what is best for someone else.

Been with my girlfriend for 5 years - a quarter of her life and near enough a quarter of mine. We argue sometimes, but everything always comes good in the end. She's changed so much over the years, but so have I and she's still perfect for me.

Neither of us want kids any time soon. We're both the type to get angry when a child cries She doesn't want to get married, and that's fine by me. It's her I love, and so long as I'm with her that's enough for me.

Yeah the pressure to have kids is intense sometimes. I wanted them, so we had them. glad I did though. But others aren't like me, that was the point of this poll. We all are different, yet we all end up on the same board.
Best of luck th3undon3on3.

Happy with another. Though not married, local laws do not allow it. But I'm fairly sure that the day will come, given how we can currently get a "civil partnership", and many parties have a majority of people wanting to make that an option. ^_^
What most people don't expect is that that is not strictly a thing for just the two of us in our partnership. It's just something different among only us. Maybe that's what makes it special, freedom and emotional ties rolled together in a ball of happy.

I get what you are saying. I do hope for the day that ppl that wish to marry each other can, without regard to other things, I may be older, but love happens.
Happy for you and hope it all works out for you.

Oh, I'm pretty sure it will, what with 13 years without really big problems. I also kind of think that being openly angry helps, if the other is not too sensitive. Grudges seem to be what has ruined most of the dead relationships in our growing circle of friends.

Only single one to post. Lol

Happily married for nearly 8 years now. I was 19, she was 16 when we met, married before I was 21 and she wasn't quite 18. A lot of her friends were against it, and her parents kicked her out because she got pregnant. Really, I don't think anyone gave us a shot in hell at lasting, but the moment I met her, I knew she was something different, and the more I got to know her, the more I knew my original thought was true. When she got pregnant, it was worrisome, because of how young we were, but not because we weren't in love. I love her even more now then I did when we were first married. She accepts all my quirks and oddities(and believe me, I am more then a bit wierd), and loves me for who I am. If it wasn't for her, I'm pretty sure I'd be on the streets(figuratively, if not literally), or dead in a gutter somewhere(When I first met her, I was in the middle of trying to sort my life out after a few years of doing drugs. I was struggling though, and I'm damn positive that if it wasn't for her both giving me a reason and supporting me, I'd have failed my battle). Sometimes I wonder what I give her in return(because it feels like not even love could be enough to make up for all my faults) that makes her stay. Whatever it is, I'm glad I do it, I couldn't live without my wife.

Lookin' for that special someone still.

Nuh. Now you are no longer alone

Was in a relationship, and we weren't the best match, but I was happy. Now I'm single, and I realise I'm even happier. It took breaking up with him (and even a post on this forum!) to realise what I actually wanted from a guy, and he simply didn't have many of the qualities I prefer. I can be a difficult person to deal with, and I also like to be spoiled, just a little wee bit, so I'm probably going to be single for a long time
And I do not ever wand to get married.

Happily in a relationship, with no plans to marry. Been together 4 years and have always been pretty open with each other, which I think helps. I was worried now that he's turned 30 he'd start getting broody or something but so far so good

Where is "not happy being alone"? :hehe:

Happy alone and it will stay that way for all time. My very happiness is dependent upon certain amounts of solitude and a lack of any and all interpersonal relationships. :hehe:

My brother, however, has been married for near 13 years now and has three young children. He and his wife are about to get a divorce. I think there have always been problems, but the exact reason would have to come from him. Shame really. He loves his kids though.

My sister just got married a few months ago. I'm not particularly impressed with her choice...I mean a math professor? Really? But she seems to like him. I'm afraid that she rushed into it though because she's just wanted to get married for so long she'll settle for the first person who asks her. I guess we'll see.

What's wrong with maths professors? Unless, of course, we're talking about her professor. :s

Nah not her professor. The guy just got his doctorate and just started teaching at a university.

I just find it funny that her last two relationships have been with complete nerds even though she's not nerdy at all, nor is she into nerdy things. First a lawyer, now a math professor. Oh well. :shrug:

Singleplayer and lovin' it :celebration:

I voted single and happy, but also looking. I'm pretty young so I'm just having a good time :foodndrink: but if I met the right person I wouldn't be opposed to a relationship.

34 years this coming June.....happier than we have ever been. Most people give up too soon. It gets better over time, once each person realizes that the grass always seems to be greener on the other side of the hill....but it still has to be mowed....and weeds still grow....over "there".
Our daughter will be 32 in Feb, our son is 29 in April; both are happily married with no children....so no Grandpa here. Maybe someday if they don't wait too long.
I'm semi-retired, my wife still works and she still puts up with me, and I still let her spend all of my money and vice-versa. heh heh.

;o)-)

I've yet to find a girl that really interests me and I see the "spark". My current relationship is dull and drab but she's good to me. I don't have the heart to break it off yet. :sadvaultboy:

Everyone knows our story, so it's probably quite boring to them and annoying that it's continually posted, but hey.

We met four years ago on the Forums after a bout of thread hijacking. Found each other insanely interesting and felt an intense need to speak to each other (we understand why now, of course). I was sixteen; he was eighteen. Now we're approaching twenty-one and twenty-three.

Four years have brought us two years' worth of courtship (but not dating) via MSN, my moving to New Zealand at age eighteen to meet him/go to school cheap, moving back but still dating, his visiting of the US (phase we're in now), his proposal to me, his departure next month, and of course, amazement, laughs, plans, happiness beyond measure, and run-on sentences. Our wedding is in December, since we believe in marriage, but don't think relationships need it in all cases to succeed. It'll be when he comes back again after our second nine month period in our respective counties. And we might move back to New Zealand after we're married. No kids for a while, though. We want them probably at year four or five, when I finish my degree.

We balance and match each other so well it scares us at times. He's a bit of a messy one (not that messy, but clothes-on-the-floor type), and I prefer to be tidy, so I like to jokingly nag him about these things and his reactions are so funny I just forget there was a nasty mess there in the first place. Stuff like that, I guess. We like to find new ways to annoy each other. Right now it seems to be doing a raspberry on each others' arms.

And yeah. What svcks is that this has prompted single-and-desperate acquaintances to come to me for romantic advice. They're normally down in the dumpiest of dumps over "still" being single at 19, 20, whatever. I appreciate them coming to me, but I just hate giving advice to super negative people. I'll say one thing that would help and I always get "yeah, but..." and when I say they shouldn't worry about it and they can find someone when they're not looking, I get the "that's easy for you to say!" bit. WELL HOW DO YOU THINK THAT HAPPENED!?

I have been married for over 42 years now and can't imagine life without him. I'm not sure we balance one another but we support one another in many ways. We depend on one another and we love one another. It's been a lot of hard work over the years but it's been worth it. I'm keeping him.