I started dating a girl four years ago, and I have not dated anyone since then! We have broken up a few times, but we are finally back together for good, and I love her very much. Just waiting for the end of college to ask her to marry me! :blush:

Can I come to your wedding? :icecream:

Well duh, man. Everyone here is invited! Right?

Wow that's the same for me.

Give him some more ice cream that'll do the trick :whisper:

Nope, never been in love. Been in lust plenty of times, and I've even had relationships where lust was barely there and it was just for the sake of "why not." But ever since I started college I've had this mindset of focusing on the things I came to college for, as well as preserving money, two things that would be compromised if I was in a relationship. Now, before you start angrily typing a reply, I know that not all relationships are like that. But it's a good filter. If I'm ever in love and she feels the same way, we'll find a way to make it work without also compromising our time and money. If we can't, then I'm not sure I'd call that love.

Eeeeeh there's really no way to word that in a way that doesn't make me sound like a robot.

But....BUT...you're 19.

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i thought i was... turns out no.

Just finished a 4 hour text, aim, call session. I am starting to feel I may be experiencing such things after all.
That or I am bloody insane.

Scarily enough :/

:ahhh: Cap'N Rex is my LONG LOST TWIN!

Been in love since November 13th, 2010. It is an indescribable feeling, and vastly different from the "crush" feeling.



You can't put a price tag on love. Time together is an important factor in a relationship. That includes personal time(time to yourselves). Generally speaking, If all you concern yourself with is having money and being to yourself, then yes love/relationships are a dead end for you.

What's next I wonder that we have in common?

It's not like college is the only time to start a relationship.

My ex dumped me after I told her I loved her...turns out she doesnt believe in love and just goes into relationships for fun :shrug: guess I wont make the same mistake with my next gf...and girls wonder why guys are such jerks...

depends on the girl. i really try to stay away from the clingy ones...

I know only hate.

I don't think she was being mean, I mean what did you want her to do, lie? I feel for you man and I wish it would have worked out... but depending on what age you are (especially in teens - young advlt) not every relationship can be really serious. I'm 18 right now and I just go into relationships for fun, but I let the person know at the beginning that I'm not looking for something serious, but just for fun, although I'm willing to see where it goes. She's just at a different stage of life then you, and its better to know now, as opposed to a few years in.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8kVg7x3hFSk

Have I ever been in love?

I still don't know the answer to that. I'd like to think so

Yeah I'm only 17 and I know the person I date now is not going to be the person I marry, but it was my first girlfriend so it was kind of a test run now I know my boundries and will do better on the next one (hopefully). I didnt cheat or lie to her, but I was definately clingy which is weird for a guy but thats just how I am, but I knew going in to the relationship that she didnt think it was super serious considering she had 5 others before me, but as it progressed she acted like it was serious and then when I started acting like it too she got really distant all of a sudden and then it went downhill until it ended. Still friends with her though and she kind of hinted that she wanted to date again but I ignored it because I dont want to be with her anymore, when she got distant it was like she never knew me and it was the worst thing I've had to go through as it made me feel worthless (my winter depression that was raging at the time didnt help either).

Only once, it was all good, very good in fact. I was even going to work with her dad. It wasn't in till she started university when things got a little rocky, but what really rocked the boat was around the same time her father found out he had only a few months to live. Despite our best efforts, things went downhill rapidly. Two weeks later she met another guy from some dating site (a year on she's still with), so I cut her out of my life for a while, only to find an abusive email from her in my inbox and not the last one either.

We try and be "friends." But it's just strange, I can't talk to her like a friend. I'm not saying they're still feelings there, since there isn't as we've both moved on with our lifes, but I dunno... And I don't want to cut her out my life again because I can't handle the damn soap-opera following, is it so much to ask to be left in peace? :stare:

Oh ok I can understand where you're coming from. Being led on is one of the absolute worst feelings in the world, I think its just one of those lessons that everyone learns. I think you can do better then that though, you seem like a pretty cool guy and I wish you the best of luck

For clinginess if thats you, then I would say just act normally, but at the beginning of the relationship just try to tone it down a little, I wish it worked that if you show how much you care they will care back, but humans are just funny that way.

Some people will hang around you just to get from you the things they want, which may be as subtle and minor as your attention. Personally, in the case you described, I'd have been a little more cold-hearted and cut her out of my life completely following the e-mail.

Have I ever been in a relationship? No. Do I feel that I have been in love before? Yes, definitely. I suppose it's sort of hard to be in love with someone that doesn't even know you exist, or doesn't love you back, but the feelings I had, I would still constitute as love regardless of the situation. I can say that right now, I'm in love but not necessarily in the traditional sense of the word.

Does being in love with myself count?