Here's my current load order.
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Oblivion.esm
ScreenEffects.esm
All Natural Base.esm
Armamentarium.esm
bookplacing.esm
CM Partners.esm
Toaster Says Share v3.esm
DLCShiveringIsles.esp
Atmospheric Loading Screens - Original Text.esp
All Natural - Real Lights.esp
All Natural.esp
All Natural - SI.esp
Akatosh Mount By Saiden Storm.esp
CrimsonScarArmor.esp
Portable Campsite - Quickstart.esp
Reznod_Mannequin.esp
Spell Delete.esp
Duke Patricks - Friendship Ring For Companion Detection.esp
1SB_WarhammerWingedStaff.esp
1SB Soulshade Sword.esp
Adonnays Elven Weaponry.esp
arme - excalibur.esp
AW_Wings.esp
Assassin_Blade.esp
ACCCGR SI.esp
DMACArmor.esp
DMRangerArmor.esp
Dread Knight Armor.esp
Hel Borne Spear Set.esp
New Frostmourne Sword by Jojjo v1_0.esp
Nicoroshi Creations DW Light.esp
pale_rider's Armory of the Berserker.esp
PortableAltars.esp
Shdw_Armor Set_Sotonhorian.esp
Shdw_weapon pack01.esp
Shdw_weapon pack02.esp
SK_Berserk_v0.6.esp
Kit Rae Weaponry.esp
Tyrael Armor.esp
Underworld Armor.esp
Wyrmfang.esp
EY_BM_Armory.esp
Nightshade_Armor.esp
Amajor7 Imperial Furniture.esp
(DC) Sutch Reborn.esp
GB_Oblivion Tournament.esp
LetThePeopleDrink.esp
Apachii_Heroes_Store.esp
Lost Paladins of the Divines.esp
ElsweyrAnequina.esp
road+bridges.esp
NRB4+LtPD Patch.esp
West Roads.esp
bartholm.esp
AutoBookPlacer.esp
Dungeon Actors Have Torches 1.6 DT.esp
Exterior Actors Have Torches 1.3 DT.esp
Toggleable Quantity Prompt.esp
Werewolf-Legends.esp
Alternative Start by Robert Evrae.esp
Disenchant.esp
SupremeMagicka.esp
SM_ShiveringIsles.esp
SM_EnchantStaff.esp
MidasSpells.esp
attack and hide easier v2.1.esp
RenGuardOverhaul.esp
Enhanced Grabbing.esp
Denock Arrows.esp
Duke Patricks - Actors Can Miss Now.esp
Oblivion XP.esp
Let There Be Darkness - Cyrodiil + SI.esp
Let There Be Darkness - Elsweyr.esp
Elves Of Lineage II.esp
TSS Custom Companion Template.esp
Toaster Says Share Faction Recruitment.esp
CM Partners.esp
CM Partners Special NPCs.esp
CM Partners NPC.esp
CM Partners More NPCs.esp
CM Partners Marker NPCs.esp
CM Partners Extra NPCs.esp
DALineage2Elves.esp
bgMagicEV.esp
bgMagicBonus.esp
Syc_LongerNightsforVampires.esp
GW71_Life_Detect.esp
ScreenControls.esp
WNewShockBoltEffects20.esp
NRB4 Standard Road Record.esp
Duke Patricks - Combat Archery.esp
FormID Finder4.esp
PoisonPack1.esp
PoisonPack2.esp
Necromancy Books.esp
DimensionalPouch-1.0.esp
Hentai_CerenityArmor.esp
All Spells Avalible for Enchanting and Spell Making.esp
Alluring Potion Bottles.esp
Arme's Excalibur Update.esp
Arch-Angel.esp
MjolnirAuthenticated.esp
Wm-Portable-Coffins.esp
FearsomeMagicka.esp
MergedMaps.esp
Bashed Patch, 0.esp
ScreenEffects.esm
All Natural Base.esm
Armamentarium.esm
bookplacing.esm
CM Partners.esm
Toaster Says Share v3.esm
DLCShiveringIsles.esp
Atmospheric Loading Screens - Original Text.esp
All Natural - Real Lights.esp
All Natural.esp
All Natural - SI.esp
Akatosh Mount By Saiden Storm.esp
CrimsonScarArmor.esp
Portable Campsite - Quickstart.esp
Reznod_Mannequin.esp
Spell Delete.esp
Duke Patricks - Friendship Ring For Companion Detection.esp
1SB_WarhammerWingedStaff.esp
1SB Soulshade Sword.esp
Adonnays Elven Weaponry.esp
arme - excalibur.esp
AW_Wings.esp
Assassin_Blade.esp
ACCCGR SI.esp
DMACArmor.esp
DMRangerArmor.esp
Dread Knight Armor.esp
Hel Borne Spear Set.esp
New Frostmourne Sword by Jojjo v1_0.esp
Nicoroshi Creations DW Light.esp
pale_rider's Armory of the Berserker.esp
PortableAltars.esp
Shdw_Armor Set_Sotonhorian.esp
Shdw_weapon pack01.esp
Shdw_weapon pack02.esp
SK_Berserk_v0.6.esp
Kit Rae Weaponry.esp
Tyrael Armor.esp
Underworld Armor.esp
Wyrmfang.esp
EY_BM_Armory.esp
Nightshade_Armor.esp
Amajor7 Imperial Furniture.esp
(DC) Sutch Reborn.esp
GB_Oblivion Tournament.esp
LetThePeopleDrink.esp
Apachii_Heroes_Store.esp
Lost Paladins of the Divines.esp
ElsweyrAnequina.esp
road+bridges.esp
NRB4+LtPD Patch.esp
West Roads.esp
bartholm.esp
AutoBookPlacer.esp
Dungeon Actors Have Torches 1.6 DT.esp
Exterior Actors Have Torches 1.3 DT.esp
Toggleable Quantity Prompt.esp
Werewolf-Legends.esp
Alternative Start by Robert Evrae.esp
Disenchant.esp
SupremeMagicka.esp
SM_ShiveringIsles.esp
SM_EnchantStaff.esp
MidasSpells.esp
attack and hide easier v2.1.esp
RenGuardOverhaul.esp
Enhanced Grabbing.esp
Denock Arrows.esp
Duke Patricks - Actors Can Miss Now.esp
Oblivion XP.esp
Let There Be Darkness - Cyrodiil + SI.esp
Let There Be Darkness - Elsweyr.esp
Elves Of Lineage II.esp
TSS Custom Companion Template.esp
Toaster Says Share Faction Recruitment.esp
CM Partners.esp
CM Partners Special NPCs.esp
CM Partners NPC.esp
CM Partners More NPCs.esp
CM Partners Marker NPCs.esp
CM Partners Extra NPCs.esp
DALineage2Elves.esp
bgMagicEV.esp
bgMagicBonus.esp
Syc_LongerNightsforVampires.esp
GW71_Life_Detect.esp
ScreenControls.esp
WNewShockBoltEffects20.esp
NRB4 Standard Road Record.esp
Duke Patricks - Combat Archery.esp
FormID Finder4.esp
PoisonPack1.esp
PoisonPack2.esp
Necromancy Books.esp
DimensionalPouch-1.0.esp
Hentai_CerenityArmor.esp
All Spells Avalible for Enchanting and Spell Making.esp
Alluring Potion Bottles.esp
Arme's Excalibur Update.esp
Arch-Angel.esp
MjolnirAuthenticated.esp
Wm-Portable-Coffins.esp
FearsomeMagicka.esp
MergedMaps.esp
Bashed Patch, 0.esp
EDIT: also i am not the best at wrye yet. The way I make a bashed patch is I go into wrye and unclick all the green names and other ones that are supposed to be unclicked then I "rebuild patch" and make all my tweaks I want and then click ok.
EDIT EDIT: I also use BOSS but that doesn't seem to help much.