I am also on Xbox, no mods (at least, not for Skyrim), and have been playing since 11/11/11, so we can rule any console limitations out. Lots of people are on consoles around here.
I can't speak for others, but in my case, I just have a vivid imagination. I've had multiple characters (over 10 of them) all of who have been quite distinctive from one another. They're all individuals. Some of them focus heavily on quests, others do not. It's all about variety with me.
I'm like a few others here because I also play dead-is-dead, which means if my character fairly dies (no glitches, no household emergencies) he or she is dead. I've had at least 5 die over the years. DiD adds an extra dimension to my character's lives, in the sense that their lives are finite. I don't push my difficulty level past Adept, and some of my games (the ones with rather extensive stories) are actually Apprentice difficulty. The story becomes the focus of their games in these cases.
There are a few other things I like to implement: food & drink & sleep matter, specific rules for each character, etc. My vampire, for instance, does not go outside during the day, even though technically she could, with Skyrim's dumbed-down sunlight damage. My vamp's sunless game feels much different from my knight's game. He loves being outdoors in the sunlight. See? Variety.
I kinda doubt any of our suggestions will help you, Turtle. Either you get into the game and keep at it for years, or you move on.