Because of the whole thing with lowering magic costs to zero with enchantments, don't put a single level up in magicka, put everything into health and stamina ?
The game practically beelines you into one of the arch types anyway, so pick one offensive skill that doesn't svck and roll with that ?
I wanted to be a mage type character and found my destructiong svcking since I didn't have enough magika. What am I suppose to do then? Maybe that is when I fall back on my sword???
The best way to level efficiently is to stop worrying about it.
People always perpetually obsess over what is the "best build" in Elder Scrolls Games because they are designed so that dramatically different character types with varying skills and attributes may succeed at the game.
In otherwords no one can really give you the perfect build because there isn't one.
Just make sure you are levelling the stuff that's relevant to your character type.
That is what I was doing. A mage type character that loves to pick locks but hasn't stold yet. I just love picking locks. In ever TES game, I always did this. I HATE the mini lock picking game, but just love to pick locs for some reason, and I haven't stold yet in Skyrim.
If you keep getting creamed by a particular enemy then you need to be more careful and vary ytour approach.
As you get stronger you shall eventually be able to overcome them.
You'll have to face the fact that there are some creatures you just won't be able to beat up as soon as you encounter them.
Worry less about the perfect level progression and try to enjoy your game.
Azrael
The Nord with the Sword
Yeah I have tried different approacehes. I have to turn the difficulty all the way to the easiest level. I guess I svck at Skyrim. Love the game though. That is why I made this post to see if there is a different approach that I should be trying that I never did before. I think I need to start using those "calm" spells I keep forgetting about. Are they really usefull?
Yep, spamming non-combat skills generally makes the game harder, not easier. Ideally you want your combat (or other "adversarial situation handling") power to go up faster than that of your enemies, which pretty much means NOT leveling unless its due to increases in skills that directly help you "win". For example, unless you need it to buy perks, there seems to be ZERO reason to raise any spell casting skill, and doing so can actually make the opposition stronger, so you shouldn't even pick up books / quests that give "free" increases in those skills.
I was a book collector, tried to collect every book I came apon. Thing is, I kept getting skill books. I didn't know wich one was a skill book or not. Too bad you can't pick up the book without reading it first. I know if I leave them behind, I will forget where it is.
As others have said, focusing on a few synergistic skills woks well. My acromegliac argonian is 22nd level has something like 6 perks in 2 handed; that 25% into one (combat) skill. The only other skill I've actively tired to raise is Blacksmithing, and now that it is at 61, I'm gonna stop on that front. (I make Epic Orc armor and Epic Elven weapons; doing a little better than that requires MUCH better smithing skill.) I'll probably push enchanting up enough to get some strong perks there. Other skills... meh. A better block would be nice, but maybe not worth the leveling for as little as I use it. Same for better heavy armor skill. Both of those are very slow to raise anyhow, given my combat style. I suppose if I get a follower who can train me in them, I'll do the "5 per level" in them and deal with the accelearted pace of leveling, but right now I'm happy to actually see the pace I level at slowing down; gives me some time to catch my breath and go collect Dragon Souls before the dragons get all uber-powered. Right now I can be pretty sure that, If I get them to land and can reach them, they are toast on a (big, sharp, metal) stick.
What do you mean by "5 per level"?
I don't level anything that I don't need. That means that two of my three characters never pick locks, for example. I just let all those chests go by unopened. It doesn't really matter, it's not like there is a shortage of loot.
I have about seven skills for each character, and just stick to those exclusively. That means the enemies don't get ahead of my combat ability. I don't even read skill books for the other skills.
As for perks, note that for fighting skills, there are a bunch of ranks in the first perk in the tree. These each give you about a 20% boost in your basic ability. These are pretty good perks to take, though they may seem boring. You use them all the time, unlike some of the perks that might seem cooler but which don't get much actual play.
Generally it is good to have some way of avoiding aggro (attention from enemies) if you don't have a high armor rating. Some examples are sneaking, illusion spells, and allies such as atronachs and followers.
As I said before, I have a need to pick those locks lol. Wanted to be a master lock picker for once in a TES game. Maybe Skyrim is not the place to do it

. I am also a horder. I loved picking locks to get alot of loot. Maybe I should try and not play this way. Maybe it will get me in less trouble. I will take your advice and see what happens.

the level up system does not work well in this game. you have to be careful how you play the game.
Yeah I know, that is why I am asking.

Thanks all for your help and tips. I will let you know how it goes when I have time to play again.