I would like to copy spells from an NPC spell trader of one mod to another esp, merge them into the same NPC. Enchanted Editor does not seem to do the trick with copy-pasting NPCS entries.
Do you have the TES Constructiuon Set? If you add the NPC to your mod and then save it, he will now be in your mod. You can always just add the same spells in his list to your NPC, or change the ID of the original NPC to create a new npc, then change his name and attributes.
Then I want to update the NPCs for a running game. I guess you know about the issue if you have talked to the NPC already, everything about him, spells, items etc. is saved like a screenshot.
Wrye Mash is the tool you want. You can Sync to Load List the mods attached to a save, and then Repair All on the save itself. I run this every single time I add or remove a mod, or update my own mod. It can be confusing to figure out where you need to click, but it can do it. I will eventually make a visual tutorial for this - I'm sure someone here can explain it for you if you have trouble figuring out where to click for these functions like I did.