well I noticed the "kidnap" option in the poll. now I know the nords lack civility and but this is post dark ages rennisance maybe even pre-mechanist age (if thats the right name?). all I have to say is isn't "kidnap" a little to rugged and uncivilized even for the nords?
If the Nords are compared to Vikings then kidnapping is pretty low on the totem pole of possibilities. If you are kidnapped by a Nord then you should be glad you at least get to be his wife. Lacking civility has nothing to do with men abusing women; this has gone on through WW2 (see:http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1080493/Stalins-army-rapists-The-brutal-war-crime-Russia-Germany-tried-ignore.html). I doubt that this tradition has even been fully defeated in today's wars, albeit it happens on a minute scale compared to the dark ages and WW2.
Enough with the history (and discussion of morals) though. I voted that my spouse and I would meet by terrorizing citizens or that I would be alone. I'm not going to have a trophy wife, and I don't want one that turns me in when I rob/assault/murder someone in the game.