This is true, but you have to admit that a lot of parents give their kids needless stress and harassment over trying to be "cute" or "unique" with their kids names.

Mine have lovely, classic, gender appropriate first names, and uncommon middle names. As equally unpleasant as a trendy unique name, is a grossly common and mundane name.
I dropped my middle name as an advlt, and after I married, replaced it with my maiden name.

It does sound pretty weird. It almost tells you to melt 'em
If you like the name, go ahead.

Well, at least your daughter won't be named after the cat, who was named after a Dr. Who character . That's what happened to my sister. As for me, my first born son will be named after me, so that way there will be a fourth!

Just remember that she'll have to live with that name for some time. Go with it if you want.

Sure, it's unique, but does it really mean anything to you and your girlfriend? As you said, you "came up with the Turkish name".

That being said, if you went with Meltemi, at least it sounds more palatable and feminine to western ears. Some female Turkish names don't sound female (to our ears) and therefore don't sound right here (like Nilgun).

I like it, but then there are very few names that I don't like just from hearing/reading them. I've got a bit of an unusual name and I love it - when I was a kid I liked not having the same name as anyone else, and I didn't get teased for it. Although my middle name is another matter... lol.

I will say this though: when my Mum was pregnant with her youngest, she was absolutely set on one particular name the whole pregnancy. When my youngest sister was born, everyone took one look at her and said straight away that she just didn't fit that name. Chances are, when you look into her face for the first time, you'll just know, even if it wasn't what you were expecting.

Congratulations, whatever you choose! :foodndrink:

Wow, I set off a few buttons off eh? Well I didn't mean to offend anyone, but I speak from past experiance. My name is Davor. I have been so teased about it. Even in advlt life, I still have to go through it. Most of it is because people are bigoted and racist about it. Maybe not in your part of the world, but here in Canada, and USA, if you don't have an North American English name, you were picked on, and poeple look at you differently. Now in these times it's more understanding with people with different names, but not when I grew up. Children, advlts, most of them were all the same, most of them all had that smirk that they were better than me because of my name was forieng.

If that is not racist or bigotted then I don't know what is. If I made my post that I said everyone was a racist then I am sorry, I didn't mean to label as much, but if I have to defend myself, I could go back and quote every post that was racist or bigotted to show you how people said it. But I don't want to do that, so I will say sorry, if you think I called you a racist. I din't call anyone such.

I went back and I said "WE" as in everyone in general. Come on, you telling me that nobody has smired or snickered because of hearing a name? We all did it once or twice in a life time. You try having and Indian or Pakistani name in North America, it is not easy. So that is why I said "WE".

Again, if I have called anyone out, please let me know what I said, I will apoligize for it even more then.

Again, it is a beautiful name. Just because you can't roll it off your toung doesn't make it any more less beautiful. Again, Indian or Pakistani names can be beautifull as well, and I know I can't say them at all. I don't say they are not beautiful just because I can't say it. Please PM me if you feel you need to discuss this more, since I think this would be off topic now.

If anything, if the OP is worried about the name, then use it as a middle name.

Meltem sounds wierd to say. I wouldn't name my daughter Meltem. But its your decision, even though the person who gets the name really should be the one to name themselves if they could, but she can change it when shes older.

I don't like the name Meltem but my opinion doesn't matter.

Davor your name is awesome. The people who tease are just jealous.

I don't think anyone in that class would think about it like that.

My name is Senet Massri! Guess how much I still get picked on even today! In Egypt, its common, but in US/Canada, people look at it as a minority. In all honesty, its bigotry.

Don't name her Meltem, i could think of 100 more thinks that could be worse of what they mean.

Thanks you just made my day.

I know this may set off a few flames, but don't name your child anything that could be easily twisted or manipulated into something odd in the dominant language of the country you live in. Its cruel and far too many people do it to their kids. There are a plethora of exotic names from many cultures and languages that can sound very cool to the "English ear". Meltem isn't one of them.

Don't worry about her getting teased. I knew kids with all kinds of crazy names that never got teased because of them.

And even if she does get teased initially that really only happens once, if the teasing or bullying continues after that than you can be sure it isn't the name.

My name is Sean, and it's not that it's an odd name it's just the spelling of it that kids would make fun of. They would say it as "seen" because they were either ignorant of the actual pronunciation (even teachers would sometimes read it wrong!) or just because they were being jerks. Either way I wasn't "scarred" by this or anything. I like my name now, and your daughter could like hers too, you never know, especially with what the name actually means.

Also, I'm reading it as 'Mel' 'tem' like two syllables, is that correct? Or is it just said more like one word?

My name is Darya. I spent much of my childhood not being able to speak English and having absolutely no understanding of American culture. I was socially awkward (to say the very least) though all my elementary and middle school years, and had no real friends. In Texas. I've never been teased about my name, and these days I get plenty of compliments. The only downside is having to explain to people how to pronounce it.


You said that people who don't like the name are racist. So yea, you called plenty of people racist. To quote: "if you can't get passed that [the name is foreign] after the intial time hearing it, then you are just ignorant and or rasicit."


Nope. I don't exactly approve of parents who pick weird spellings for their kid's names (the aforementioned Jaxxon), but I don't look down on the kids for that.


Is it a near sighted to dislike a name because its foreign and/or unusual? Yea, it is. But its not worthy of the R word.

There could be worse names. I will admit I smirk at some names just because I find it funny when things poorly translate between cultures (like the Mazda LaPuta [meaning 'the prosttute' (more vulgar way of saying it, though) in Spanish, or worse, depending on the dialect], Nissan Moco [booger], Chevy Nova ['no va' means 'it doesn't go' in Spanish]). There's a girl whose name I've seen is Poupee (pronounced 'poopy' or like 'poo-pee') that I can't help but smirk at, but I wouldn't bully her for it 'cause I know it means a lot in her culture.

Could the Spaniards/Hispanics who laughed at the car names really be called racists or anything for that? No; the car companies just did poor research into the perceptions of those names in the countries those cars would primarily be. Hispanics and English-speakers alike laugh at the Hispanic name of Lesbie Anna/Anne. Not because of homophobia, but because it just so obviously sounds like a word we're familiar with. But yeah, just see how it'll automatically be seen here in the US and take that into consideration. People will smirk, but I think overall, we've got more respect. We can't help if it sounds funny in our language, but we appreciate the meaning behind it. I'll tell you right now that my name is an English one, and it's after a flower, and I've HATED the stupid puns and crap people come up with thinking they're all clever. I HATE IT. YOU ARE NOT CLEVER FOR POINTING OUT THAT I SHARE A NAME WITH A FLOWER!

Seeing as how the OP has not responded once, I'm wondering if we should even bother with responses.

Heh, you make a good point. Mitsubishi sold a 4wd called the Pajero in Australia. Hilarious.

Since we have to carry our names around the rest of our lives, I think parents should make more of an effort to pick names that will fit/blend in, rather than stick out like a sore thumb. Yes, that is my opinion, but it seems that a lot of people share the same opinion. :shrug:

We have a very specific relationship with Deutschland. He poses questions and problems and our international troubleshooting team works out a plan of action. We helped him woo this girl, and now we shall name their child!

If it's really that bad you can just change your name. You don't have to carry it for the rest of your life.

And why fit in? That's just so... so boring. :tongue:

Next we'll help him choose a house!

I know you're joking, but we helped him budget for that last time.

Jesus, are we his surrogate parents or something?

Hahaha! Well, he is asking for opinions.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Densha_Otoko.

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