» Wed Oct 28, 2009 7:54 pm
Yes, it is a common problem in vanilla. My char prefers to adventure without NPCs. When she does a quest that involves a follower and a 'wait here, dummy' option is not available, she will generally go clear wherever they need to go before she takes them on. There are however, a few quests that require a bit more creativity. When forced to fight alongside an ally, she will generally take on the role of casting healing spells on her follower and let him do the fighting as she tries to keep him alive.
There is a console command to make any NPC you want essential, as drewb pointed out above, so they won't die.
There is another console command to make any NPC you want ignore friendly hits, so they won't attack you.
Both can be found in the UESP http://www.uesp.net/wiki/Oblivion:Console_Command_Tutorial