I don't blame you, it sounds like it would be rather tricky. Aside from the pregnancy issue, would you say that your mod is compatible with the other at all, or should I just nix the romance mod altogether?
Oh, it wasn't that the patch didn't work, it worked fine. I just think getting into that sort of situation with Julan and Shani is more trouble that it's worth!
And the Romance mod is perfectly safe to load up alongside the mod, but don't try to use the Romance conversation options on modded companions, as due to the way the Romance mod works, you will get nasty effects like the romance getting broken off at random, and sometimes the companion even attacking you. Anyway, the dialogue is very generic (by necessity!) and totally unsuited to any companion with a personality!