Theres a button that says show only conflicting plugins but for the life of me i cant figure out how to turn it on...anyone?

Select a plugin first, then click the checkbox.

lol...duh...

Damn it looks like most of my mods are conflicting with stuff...thats bad right..so should i get rid of em... theres some really good mods that are conflicting like loot and degradation,ineeds,etc.