I've seen this over and over on these boards, and it always comes down to the same thing. There are two fundamental ways to approach the game:
Some people play as if they are actually in the game.
Other people play as if the character in the game is an entirely separate individual.
The people who don't understand how anyone could play as the opposite gender almost invariably play as if they're the character in the game. For whatever reason, they can't or don't conceive of the possibility of playing the game as if the character is an entirely separate individual, so they just presume that everybody plays the game the way they do, which means that the players who play characters of the opposite gender must be "weird" or "perverted." And they rarely miss a chance to say so.
In reality though, most people who play as opposite genders simply play as if the character in the game is an entirely separate person, so gender is just another defining trait of the character, and has nothing to do with the player.
Exactly, gpstr, you nailed it!
Edit: Just for the record, in Skyrim, some characters will be played as male and others as female, so I voted for both.
Sibyl, my shaman-type will be the first character I will guide, or direct through the game. She will not be an avatar of me, but, rather, an avatar for me.
The choices she will make in the game, will represent the choices she, as that particular character would make, not the choices I would make. She will have her own defined set of values to follow.
gpstr gets it. :foodndrink:
A second character would be roleplayed somewhat differently. Again, these characters are not me.