Fascinating. Honestly. They could make a movie out of your gameplay. Whats the lure of role playing a promiscuous man? From the sound of it your female character seems to be more moralistic by your description than the male.
I want to be an ice vampire... but that would mean forsaking children. Raising a family doesn't appeal to me but I might want to see what its like in game and then pay them to go away so I can continue to adventure without worrying about whether I left them enough of my hard won coin to survive on between visits.
Well my female char is a mage, and way older than she looks (several hundred years at leas). She is more interested in power and beneficial tactical position in society where she can "direct without rilling". She is intelligent, reserved, purposeful and when needed manipulative, and actually engages in direct battles only when she has no other options left. She is different form me, but I can understand and often approve of her choices - it is a role, but one I play from my own "mindset"
The male character on the other hand is highly chaotic - he allows me to do everything that my female char never would - either because she is to smart, to controlled and reserved or because of how logical she is. Since I don't identify that much with the male chars making chaotic and sometimes illogical choices does not cause so much discord for me, so I can experience all the content and fun I miss in the other playtrough - I get him in to all kinds of trouble and see how it works out, and if the villagers do the smart thing and chase him out with pitchforks this time around

And I have to admit some eye candy is welcome - I like attractive man, so when I get my hands on one I fully control I delight in playing dress ups with him