I am looking at it now, and is it really as good as they say?
Yes
Should I get the 2nd one instead of the 1st one?
get both. Otherwise, get the first, play as much as you can out of it, then import those characters into ME2. Trust me, you'll want to. The default characters in ME2 are a mega letdown.
Was loooking at the Gamespot reviews, and it seems the first one is a bit buggy, or clunky with the vehicle combat design.
On harder difficulties, enemies tend to take forever to kill, and the vehicle (Mako) tends to have weird physics going on. Personally, I hated vehicle combat.
The 2nd one looks more polished and I am surprised they said it's better than the first one. Usually the 1st one is better.
It's a lot more polished, streamlined, and I find the voice acting and dialog choices to be superior. However, the amount of skills are reduced to 4 skills for you teammates, and I think ~8 for Shepard. Also, weapon specializing skills have been removed, but I find that a non-issue, you are a career soldier, and somehow having you not being able to shoot the broad side of a barn is a little off...
So is this always done in 3rd person view? Is there any 1st peson view?
Is this like Baulders Gate, but in Space and not in isometric view? Same company correct?
Only 3rd person, no isometric. Think Gears of War.
So I see in the 1st one you drive a buggy. Is there any space ship combat or fighter combat as well? What about the 2nd version? I didn't see no buggy driving, is that in there as well?
Yes you drive a car in the first one, but it's a little weird in the environments and driving. BW removed it in the second game, but added a hover car if you buy the DLC (don't buy the DLC). No spaceship combat.
Is it appropriate for a 9 year old? My son loves playing games that I do. I haven't bought Dragon Age: Origins because of the inapropriateness for a 8 year old (at the time).
Considering how my parents didn't even want me to see PG-13 movies when I was 9 and didn't want me to play games with blood, I'd suggest your child shouldn't play it. There's blood splatter here and there (and different colored, depending on the speices), civilians are seen gunned down at points, and romance is embarrassingly bad (for both games). When he's ~6-7 years older, then it would be more appropriate for him. I will note that ME2 is a darker game than the first.
I will be getting this for the 360, is there any multiplayer or split screen or what ever you call it where 2 people can play at the same time, and or agaisnt each other?
purely a single player game
Is there anything else you can say about it?
Both are really great games, despite what some people may say, namely about ME2. Both have lots of RPG elements in them, dialog is pretty good (gets better in the second game, imo), and I've made roughly 5-6 characters in each of those games, with multiple playthroughs.