Not everybody's a hardcoe roleplayer, it's obvious that at least SOME RPing is involved when playing an RPg, but you shouldn't have to be hardcoe just to experience a game with minimal balancing issues. You're right, a lot of people play games other than TES, SHOCKER! That doesn't mean you should generalize anyone who has complaints about the balancing as a "kid" just because they want to have fun while being the best and aren't that into fairytales.
You should be addressing the issue of everyone wanting or NEEDING to be the best, many have said that maybe it's the American culture, which practically since it's birth has been obsessed with being the best. We like to label ourselves a super-super power and look down on other countries (maybe the reason everyone hates us?).