If anyone can please add further links in posts I can cut and paste them into this header.
3DS MAX
Tutorials (some contain links to tools)
Nexus Tutorial discussion: http://forums.nexusmods.com/index.php?/topic/499673-import-export-skyrim-nif-3dsmax-tutorial/
YouTube Max to Skyrim tutorial: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KVPicWtxTWk
The Enclave, Max and Blender tutorials (under construction) http://tesalliance.org/forums/index.php?/forum/129-3d-craftworks/
Figments 3ds Max tools: http://skyrim.nexusmods.com/downloads/file.php?id=5622
BLENDER
Currently very difficult and requires much tweaking, working around: http://skyrim.nexusmods.com/downloads/file.php?id=3790