If you want good RP experience, pick tabletop PnP RPG instead. :nod:
If that is possible that is.
Baldur's Gate 2 is great game as well. But that might be game what labels you even greater "DnD geek"
2nded
If I remember, it had a multiplayer capability, but not sure how it worked.
And if you're just playing with your friend, it can be your little secret, right?
As for strategy, prehaps check out wargamer.com