How in the 8 divines do I start this quest? I know you're supposed to overhear a conversation but I've been in this village for 4 in game days and no conversations.

Yes I have completed Fate of the Skaal

You have to let them finish their conversation before you speak to anyone, otherwise, they have no dialogue option. Trying looking it up on UESP.

They won't start the conversation

They won't even approach eachother

Did you clear the temple of miraak yet? Not sure why but i always have to do that part first.

It's possible to save the skal by getting the bend will shout, before the temple run, that's why i ask. Its seems unrelated but i think it's still a prerequisite.

STAHLRIM FOR THE WIN!

?Upon meeting the two Skaal villagers discussing the disappearance of the village blacksmith, if the Dragonborn interrupts their conversation by talking to either one of them, it will stop their conversation and they will not speak again, thus making it impossible to get the miscellaneous objective and making the quest unplayable. Even if the Dragonborn tries to talk the Deor afterwards, it will be impossible to interact with him. If this is your problem I can only suggest loading an earlier save.

I keep trying that and not talking to them but they won't approach eachother

Never finished this quest either.

Every time I load, the girl stays in her house and the woodcutter guy just walks around.
And if wait an hour the guy who's supposed to be missing appears!