i got it working now for me
for users who have solutions with "NVIDIA DRIVER CRASH AFTER 5-15MINUTES GAME CRASHES EVERYTIME" and it works even with SLI
the solution is:
i have got 2x680ies from gainward phantom, wich are slightly oced factory, identical cards at first sight BUT they are not identical as well.
diffrent ascis means diffrent quality means card 1. got 1137mhz core 2. got 1167mhz max core
the boost core nvidiainspector says is @1150mhz wich means card 2. is over that and clocks down to 1150 well! but not card 1 its maximum clock is @ 1137mhz.
to fix the problems with driver crashing you can do 2 diffrent things
OVERCLOCK the smaller mhz core card so that both cards can match the core clock (1150mhz boost in my case)
or
DOWNCLOCK the stronger one (to 1137mhz in my case)
so they dont get out of sync evertyime and game crashes
do this via nvidiainspector it works well
http://fs5.directupload.net/images/151112/oo4p4ny3.jpg
to enable sli simply put in nvidia system activate ALTERNATE FORCE RENDERING 2 for fallout4.exe and falloutlauncher.exe
i hope it helps let me know in my opinion it helped
EDIT: for users how are running only one video card it could help to down or overclock to match its boost, nvidiainspector shows you this like in the pic i posted