Next thing you know, we might be hearing about how some do not want women fighters, just preferring them to be in the towns weaving baskets or making dinner. You know, like real life *cough - Tomoe Gozen, Queen Bodicea, Quan-Lin, Granuaile, Elizabeth I, Nanny of the Maroon peoples, Gormlaith, Cleopatra, countless others, cough *.
Actually, I always felt a twinge whenever I see a female Imperial Guardsman, or fighter's guild member. Obviously, there are exceptions. Unfortunately, all the women you've named above were leaders, and therefore had to fill more masculine roles to maintain power. 99.9 percent of every army in the history of the world were men.
On the flip side, since women were barred from more official forms of masculine employment, the type of woman who looked for that life was more likely to end up as a spy, or assassin, or bandit.
And while I was upset about the small number of women weaving and cooking, I was also upset at the small number of men farming and fishing and so forth, menial labor in general.
Anyways, the issue at hand. I DON'T think Orcs should be unplayable. But there SHOULD be unplayable races, even intelligent ones who can't be talked to and traded with.
BUT I do think Orcs should be more unique. Now, some people are saying they don't want Tolkien typical Orcs Are Violent Orcs. Well, that ship has sailed, the lore is written. I do like that they are being integrated into "society" but I think you should be able to see the transformation. People should say "Oh wow, an Orc serving as town steward? Never thought I'd see the day." There should still be Orcs who refuse to do any labor other than the violent nomadic life they are used to. whether that is serving the Legion or forming bandit gangs in the hills.