Hmm, just dont too gritty. Dragon Age is waayyy to gritty and brutal. That wouldnt really fit into the TES world in my opinion.
I never felt that Dragon Age was too gritty. In fact, while I liked the game, it didn't seem to me that it captured the whole "dark fantasy" thing it was advertised as, it seemed like for the developers, "dark fantasy" translates to "violent fantasy". If you want to see a proper dark fantasy game, the Witcher is more suitable, I think.
But as to what rating Bethesda is going for, they have said that they don't aim for a specific rating, and this, as I see it, is exactly what they should do. Make the game you want, and let ESRB give it whatever rating they feel it deserves. Though in the podcast, Todd Howard said he expects the game to be rated M, and I can believe this. If you watch the trailer, there was a number of scenes with blood in it, and I'm not talking about a spray of red particles like Morrowind had, I mean reletively detailed blood that sprays out and sticks to the player and objects (See for example the part where the character hits the dragon and the resulting blood gets stuck on him. And if anyone is going to tell me "But the dragon fight was scripted!", I won't deny it probably was, but that doesn't mean we won't see blood like that in the actual game. The screenshot that shows the player fighting a troll also shows very similar looking blood on the player's sword, and blood that sticks to objects has been in games for a long time, Oblivion and Fallout 3 had it too, so I see no reason to think the blood in the trailer does not reflect what we'll actually see in the game.) The combat shown in the trailer as a whole also felt more brutal than in past games. From what I've seen, I certainly don't get the feeling of a game intended to get a T rating.
As far as a certain issue related to children people have brought up, I think the fact that the rules don't allow us to discuss the subject on these forums should tell you Bethesda's stance on it, and give a pretty good indication that we won't see it in Skyrim. And because of said rules, I think we should say no more on the subject.
I find that hard to believe concerning there are some rooms with body parts laying around.
You mean you find it hard to believe that they missed things like that? Well, I'd say that ESRB didn't do their job very well if they missed things like that, but obviously, they couldn't play through the whole game, I don't know the exact proccess by which ESRB determines what kind of content a game has, but I could easily see them missing some details in a game as large as Oblivion.