» Fri Jan 07, 2011 11:03 pm Need is a funny thing. There are lots of things other people say we need. I think that friendship is one of those needs that is delusional, to the effect that we only think we need it because of how we are raised and how we live life.
There was a time when I recognized that the need of friendship was one of the prime factors contributing to my unhappiness, and I was able to use this to dissociate and remove the very need itself without changing the lack of friendship. Kind of like when you eat fish, and then get food poisoning, and for a long time afterward you just don't want to eat fish at all. That's a more physical defense that I remember hearing about, which humans picked up to avoid eating foods that were actually poisonous in the wild.
Lack of friendship was in the way of my happiness, so I removed it from the equation. The mind is adaptable like that. I don't think many people realize the extent to which we can play a psychic lego game with our own heads and rearrange things.
Various other things are delusional too I think. Self-esteem is another factor. Again I use myself, because I cannot speak for others, but I have soul-crushingly low self-esteem and yet maintain nearly constant happiness and content in life. Why is that? It was in the way, so I just removed it from the equation. What I think about myself, and what I think about other humans, doesn't play into how I feel in general. I'm a misanthropist to the core, and that misanthropy applies to myself just as much as it does to others.
Happiness isn't so complicated to find. I think we just put too many artificial barriers in the way.
There was a time when I recognized that the need of friendship was one of the prime factors contributing to my unhappiness, and I was able to use this to dissociate and remove the very need itself without changing the lack of friendship. Kind of like when you eat fish, and then get food poisoning, and for a long time afterward you just don't want to eat fish at all. That's a more physical defense that I remember hearing about, which humans picked up to avoid eating foods that were actually poisonous in the wild.
Lack of friendship was in the way of my happiness, so I removed it from the equation. The mind is adaptable like that. I don't think many people realize the extent to which we can play a psychic lego game with our own heads and rearrange things.
Various other things are delusional too I think. Self-esteem is another factor. Again I use myself, because I cannot speak for others, but I have soul-crushingly low self-esteem and yet maintain nearly constant happiness and content in life. Why is that? It was in the way, so I just removed it from the equation. What I think about myself, and what I think about other humans, doesn't play into how I feel in general. I'm a misanthropist to the core, and that misanthropy applies to myself just as much as it does to others.
Happiness isn't so complicated to find. I think we just put too many artificial barriers in the way.
Would you say that any human interaction at all is necessary or no?
