Dealing with depression : Othor Games

» Sat Feb 19, 2011 9:49 am

Try listening to some sad music like http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5-ecL2DGszc

» Fri Feb 18, 2011 7:22 pm

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If, by any chance, you're a writer type of person (even to a lesser degree)... Write a story that in some way reflects your situation, but exaggerate and get wild with it - in a way, create a venting channel for yourself. It helped me when I was at your age, and the story got pretty big and became quite good in the end (for a story written by me under my 20's, that is).

» Fri Feb 18, 2011 8:16 pm

You need to see a health care professional. It doesn't have to be a therapist. As a matter of fact therapists aren't always the answer anymore. But go to your doctor and tell him about your depression. There are many good antidepressants out there that may be the very thing you need. It's important however to get some sort of help with this. So many people seem to think they can deal with it themselves and don't go for help until they hit rock bottom. Don't allow that to happen. Get some assistance now.

And to add to that, you need to find something you do have an interest in and pursue it whether it be art, sport, chess club or other sort of club...just anything that occupies your mind. Also don't stay inside and alone. Go for walks outside even if you must force yourself at first. There is nothing like the sun and the vit. D it provides to lift your spirits. Volunteer. Helping others less fortunate helps them and give you a sense of worth.

I won't lock this for now (maybe we will later if bad advise starts) but I can't stress enough that this forum is not a very good place to assist someone with depression. It's a clinical illness and we are not clinicians here.

» Fri Feb 18, 2011 11:28 pm

I just get over it eventually though it does start getting channeled off as anger sometimes. But it goes away.

I nearly broke a plate in half a few weeks ago, I was that angry. I'm not used to academeic failure, and at the time that really upset me, but I've not been properly depressed for a long while. I find just talking to people, any people, makes life seem more worth living. It doesn't help that I'm not very sociable, but I'm working on that. Remembering you're not alone always seems to help me.If you don't feel like talking to your friends, talking to people you don't know as well can almost be better. I find it's nice to be able to speak my thoughts aloud once in a while, instead of just keeping them locked up or written down.

» Sat Feb 19, 2011 12:18 am

Perhaps listening to a http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WlBiLNN1NhQ can lift your spirits?

» Sat Feb 19, 2011 2:24 am

and just remember, if you kill yourself now, you can't see Tron 3. whether this is a good or bad thing, I don't know

» Sat Feb 19, 2011 1:04 am

and just remember, if you kill yourself now, you can't see Tron 3. whether this is a good or bad thing, I don't know

Damn, didn't think of that...

» Fri Feb 18, 2011 11:59 pm

Regular ups and downs are normal, if its prolonged go see a medical professional.

Many people have suicidal thoughts, few act on them. If they concern you, go see a medical professional.

I wouldn't let an experience with *one* therapist make you not want to go to any.

Negative moods breed negative thoughts, negative thoughts breed negative moods. You need to break the cycle somehow, the best advice would come from a medical professional.

» Fri Feb 18, 2011 6:26 pm

I don't really know why I'm posting this here, since it's probably going to get locked, not to mention it's going to seem silly, but here it goes.

Recently I've been feeling really crappy. I've been getting average grades at school and I don't really like that too much, I've not been hanging out with friends, I don't have a significant other to spend time with, my family can get on my nerves and I just feel like I want to be left alone all the time. Hell I've even stopped playing games mid-match, I quit out of them because I just don't feel like finishing the game. That's pretty weird for me. I'm also not watching what I eat nearly as much as I was, I just don't even really care about trying to stay active now.

So then on Saturday I check my dating profile. Being gay and a nerd in the south is a pain in the [censored] by the way. Anyway, I send messages to possible dates all the time, and out of the dozens of messages I send I get a response maybe once out of every twenty or more. Well Saturday I got a response, which was simply, without any etiquette "No, I don't want to talk to you." This set me off, and Saturday I felt terrible. I haven't felt rested, last night I kept waking up just feeling crappy. I don't think I'll ever get more friends, because right now I only really have three friends, two of them being really distant and more acquaintances. I don't think I'll ever find someone who actually likes me for who I am either, nor a boyfriend. This morning I blew up with my mom and ended up shutting myself in my room crying.

The worst part of it all is that I've started having suicidal thoughts.

Now I'm not one to think those sorts of things usually, but I'm really starting to run out of reasons that life's worth living. The only thing in the next year that I'm even looking forward to is Skyrim, a game of all things. Not my birthday, not a holiday or a trip, a game. Now that's not to say that I'm going to ACT on said thoughts, but it just makes me more depressed that *I* am having them.

I don't want to go to a therapist because the last therapist I went to disagreed with me on my religious and sixual preferences. It's really hard to feel like spilling your guts to someone you know disagrees with you. I just really don't know what to do or even where to start trying to feel better, and I REALLY don't want to have to explain all of this to my parents. I'm just... I don't even know anymore...

I really don't know how to turn this into a discussion, but yeah... Thanks for listening.

Folks are starting to not take this serious enough. Please talk to a friend or parent or clergy or doctor about this. We aren't equipped to deal with it here. Please feel free to send me a message if you just want someone to talk to about it. And please be patient as I will be gone for a few hours and won't be able to answer. Until then, talk to someone who you trust.