My load order:
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Oblivion.esm
Jog_X_Mod.esm
All Natural Base.esm
Oscuro's_Oblivion_Overhaul.esm
Mart's Monster Mod.esm
Mart's Monster Mod for OOO.esm
TamrielTravellers.esm
Better Cities Resources.esm
BetterMusicSystem.esm
HorseCombatMaster.esm
TNR ALL RACES FINAL.esp
TNR - ShiveringIsles.esp
DLCShiveringIsles.esp
Unofficial Shivering Isles Patch.esp
Better Cities .esp
LoadingScreens.esp
LoadingScreensAddOn.esp
Natural_Habitat_by_Max_Tael.esp
All Natural - Real Lights.esp
All Natural.esp
All Natural - SI.esp
Enhanced Water v2.0 HD.esp
Symphony of Violence.esp
Atmospheric Oblivion.esp
PCSoundGarrett.esp
WindowLightingSystem.esp
Book Jackets Oblivion.esp
CM_Better Wine.esp
Cyrodilic Brandy.esp
BetterMusicSystem(SI).esp
Purge Cell Buffers - Loading.esp
Enhanced Economy.esp
DLCHorseArmor.esp
DLCOrrery.esp
DLCVileLair.esp
DLCMehrunesRazor.esp
DLCSpellTomes.esp
Adonnays Classical Weaponry.esp
Adonnays Elven Weaponry.esp
ClassyClothingCompendium.esp
doofdillas_potions_recolored_unsorted_v0_2_1.esp
Shdw_Armor Set_Sotonhorian.esp
WarriorBandages_V2.0.esp
Thieves Arsenal.esp
DLCThievesDen.esp
Oscuro's_Oblivion_Overhaul.esp
OOO-Water_Weeds.esp
Mart's Monster Mod for OOO.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Shivering Isles.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Additional Enemy NPC Vars.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Hunting & Crafting.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Looting NPCs & Creatures.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Safer Roads.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Safer Quest Locations.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - More Wilderness Life No Gates.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - More Passive Wildlife.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Extra Wounding.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Friendlier Factions OOO.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Diverse WaterLife.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Slof Horses Complete.esp
TamrielTravellerAdvscript.esp
Travellers4MMMHostileFactions.esp
TamrielTravellers4OOO.esp
TamrielTravellersItemsnpc.esp
ShiveringIsleTravellers.esp
ShiveringIsleTravellersFriendlyFactions4MMM.esp
LoadingScreens-OOO.esp
OOO-WaterFish.esp
BrotherhoodRenewed.esp
thievery.esp
thievery - EE patch.esp
VaultsofCyrodiil.esp
DLCBattlehornCastle.esp
DLCFrostcrag.esp
Knights.esp
MTCThievesGrottoV4.1.esp
xuldarkforest.esp
xulStendarrValley.esp
xulTheHeath.esp
XulEntiusGorge.esp
xulFallenleafEverglade.esp
xulColovianHighlands_EV.esp
ThievesGrotto-ColovianHighlands patch.esp
xulChorrolHinterland.esp
xulBeachesOfCyrodiilLostCoast.esp
xulBravilBarrowfields.esp
xulLushWoodlands.esp
xulAncientYews.esp
xulAncientRedwoods.esp
xulCloudtopMountains.esp
xulArriusCreek.esp
xulPatch_AY_AC.esp
xulRollingHills_EV.esp
xulPantherRiver.esp
xulRiverEthe.esp
xulBrenaRiverRavine.esp
xulImperialIsle.esp
xulBlackwoodForest.esp
xulCheydinhalFalls.esp
xulAspenWood.esp
xulSkingradOutskirts.esp
Harvest [Flora].esp
Birthsigns Expanded.esp
Leviathan Soulgems.esp
P1DkeyChain.esp
PersuasionOverhaul.esp
ReneerNPCSneakMod.esp
Quest Award Leveller.esp
Quest Award Leveller - Vile Lair.esp
Quest Award Leveller - Mehrunes Razor.esp
Quest Award Leveller - Knights of the Nine.esp
Alternative Start by Robert Evrae.esp
RealisticForceMedium.esp
RealisticMagicForceMedium.esp
StarX Vanilla Vampires Revised.esp
EnchantmentRestore.esp
SM Combat Hide.esp
StealthOverhaul.esp
ZumbsLockpickingMod - OBSE.esp
No psychic guards v1.2.esp
RenGuardOverhaul.esp
Marksman Velocity.esp
DeadlyReflex 5 - Combat Moves.esp
SniperSneakSkillup.esp
nGCD.esp
nGCD Oghma Infinium.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Resized Races.esp
bgMagicEV.esp
Better Cities - Full City Defences.esp
Better Cities Full.esp
BCBravilFULL-Barrowfields patch.esp
BCChorrol-ChorrolHinterland fix.esp
BCCheydinhalFULL-CheydinhalFalls patch.esp
BCSkingrad-SkingradOutskirts patch.esp
Better Cities - VWD of the IC.esp
Better Imperial City.esp
Better Imperial City FPS Patch.esp
Better Cities Full FPS Patch.esp
[GFX]_Initial_Glow-all.esp
UFF & RM Assassin Elite Armor.esp
Bashed Patch, 0.esp
Oblivion.esm
Jog_X_Mod.esm
All Natural Base.esm
Oscuro's_Oblivion_Overhaul.esm
Mart's Monster Mod.esm
Mart's Monster Mod for OOO.esm
TamrielTravellers.esm
Better Cities Resources.esm
BetterMusicSystem.esm
HorseCombatMaster.esm
TNR ALL RACES FINAL.esp
TNR - ShiveringIsles.esp
DLCShiveringIsles.esp
Unofficial Shivering Isles Patch.esp
Better Cities .esp
LoadingScreens.esp
LoadingScreensAddOn.esp
Natural_Habitat_by_Max_Tael.esp
All Natural - Real Lights.esp
All Natural.esp
All Natural - SI.esp
Enhanced Water v2.0 HD.esp
Symphony of Violence.esp
Atmospheric Oblivion.esp
PCSoundGarrett.esp
WindowLightingSystem.esp
Book Jackets Oblivion.esp
CM_Better Wine.esp
Cyrodilic Brandy.esp
BetterMusicSystem(SI).esp
Purge Cell Buffers - Loading.esp
Enhanced Economy.esp
DLCHorseArmor.esp
DLCOrrery.esp
DLCVileLair.esp
DLCMehrunesRazor.esp
DLCSpellTomes.esp
Adonnays Classical Weaponry.esp
Adonnays Elven Weaponry.esp
ClassyClothingCompendium.esp
doofdillas_potions_recolored_unsorted_v0_2_1.esp
Shdw_Armor Set_Sotonhorian.esp
WarriorBandages_V2.0.esp
Thieves Arsenal.esp
DLCThievesDen.esp
Oscuro's_Oblivion_Overhaul.esp
OOO-Water_Weeds.esp
Mart's Monster Mod for OOO.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Shivering Isles.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Additional Enemy NPC Vars.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Hunting & Crafting.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Looting NPCs & Creatures.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Safer Roads.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Safer Quest Locations.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - More Wilderness Life No Gates.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - More Passive Wildlife.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Extra Wounding.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Friendlier Factions OOO.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Diverse WaterLife.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Slof Horses Complete.esp
TamrielTravellerAdvscript.esp
Travellers4MMMHostileFactions.esp
TamrielTravellers4OOO.esp
TamrielTravellersItemsnpc.esp
ShiveringIsleTravellers.esp
ShiveringIsleTravellersFriendlyFactions4MMM.esp
LoadingScreens-OOO.esp
OOO-WaterFish.esp
BrotherhoodRenewed.esp
thievery.esp
thievery - EE patch.esp
VaultsofCyrodiil.esp
DLCBattlehornCastle.esp
DLCFrostcrag.esp
Knights.esp
MTCThievesGrottoV4.1.esp
xuldarkforest.esp
xulStendarrValley.esp
xulTheHeath.esp
XulEntiusGorge.esp
xulFallenleafEverglade.esp
xulColovianHighlands_EV.esp
ThievesGrotto-ColovianHighlands patch.esp
xulChorrolHinterland.esp
xulBeachesOfCyrodiilLostCoast.esp
xulBravilBarrowfields.esp
xulLushWoodlands.esp
xulAncientYews.esp
xulAncientRedwoods.esp
xulCloudtopMountains.esp
xulArriusCreek.esp
xulPatch_AY_AC.esp
xulRollingHills_EV.esp
xulPantherRiver.esp
xulRiverEthe.esp
xulBrenaRiverRavine.esp
xulImperialIsle.esp
xulBlackwoodForest.esp
xulCheydinhalFalls.esp
xulAspenWood.esp
xulSkingradOutskirts.esp
Harvest [Flora].esp
Birthsigns Expanded.esp
Leviathan Soulgems.esp
P1DkeyChain.esp
PersuasionOverhaul.esp
ReneerNPCSneakMod.esp
Quest Award Leveller.esp
Quest Award Leveller - Vile Lair.esp
Quest Award Leveller - Mehrunes Razor.esp
Quest Award Leveller - Knights of the Nine.esp
Alternative Start by Robert Evrae.esp
RealisticForceMedium.esp
RealisticMagicForceMedium.esp
StarX Vanilla Vampires Revised.esp
EnchantmentRestore.esp
SM Combat Hide.esp
StealthOverhaul.esp
ZumbsLockpickingMod - OBSE.esp
No psychic guards v1.2.esp
RenGuardOverhaul.esp
Marksman Velocity.esp
DeadlyReflex 5 - Combat Moves.esp
SniperSneakSkillup.esp
nGCD.esp
nGCD Oghma Infinium.esp
Mart's Monster Mod - Resized Races.esp
bgMagicEV.esp
Better Cities - Full City Defences.esp
Better Cities Full.esp
BCBravilFULL-Barrowfields patch.esp
BCChorrol-ChorrolHinterland fix.esp
BCCheydinhalFULL-CheydinhalFalls patch.esp
BCSkingrad-SkingradOutskirts patch.esp
Better Cities - VWD of the IC.esp
Better Imperial City.esp
Better Imperial City FPS Patch.esp
Better Cities Full FPS Patch.esp
[GFX]_Initial_Glow-all.esp
UFF & RM Assassin Elite Armor.esp
Bashed Patch, 0.esp
I also want to say that I appreciate all the hard work both the modders of this community and the people willing to help those of us not as good at mod stability.