Just target Harland and use the kill command in the console, so you dont make anyone else hostile. This wont interfere with completing the quest, since Harland is expendable.
Obviously this still requires reverting back to a save file that doesn't crash on load, but it's better than starting over.
Please post if this works for anyone else. It worked for me with no further issues (now 80+ gameplay hours).
Developers:
If any Devs read this, I think the problem is with the Harland's space suit. When I console killed him, he was wearing 2 space suits simultaneously, which could cause some sort of crash bug in loading the save file.
I suspect he is carrying a spacesuit which he puts on, and then a second spacesuit is probably equipped when he runs down with all the rest of the followers (or something like that).
It also appears that Harland's two spacesuits have different object IDs. Perhaps something is messed up with one of his spacesuits (?).