I've got this huge Load Order and I wanted to drop it here for your consideration. Please let me know if anything jumps out at you, incompatibility-wise. I do get the occasional CTD, but I still haven't ruled out memory overload yet.
00 Oblivion.esm01 You Are Here.esm02 All Natural Base.esm [Version 0.9.9]03 Cobl Main.esm [Version 1.72]04 Qarls_Harvest.esm05 Oscuro's_Oblivion_Overhaul.esm [Version 1.34]06 Mart's Monster Mod.esm [Version 3.7b3p3]07 Mart's Monster Mod for OOO.esm [Version 0.9.9MB3]08 TamrielTravellers.esm [Version 1.39c]09 Armamentarium.esm [Version 1.35]0A Artifacts.esm [Version 1.1]0B Better Cities Resources.esm0C Progress.esm [Version 2.2]0D Unofficial Oblivion Patch.esp [Version 3.2.5]0E UOP Vampire Aging & Face Fix.esp [Version 1.0.0]0F Oblivion Citadel Door Fix.esp10 DLCShiveringIsles.esp11 Unofficial Shivering Isles Patch.esp [Version 1.4.0]12 SM Plugin Refurbish - SI.esp [Version 1.30]13 Better Cities .esp14 LoadingScreens.esp15 LoadingScreensAddOn.esp16 LoadingScreensSI.esp17 All Natural - Real Lights.esp [Version 0.9.9]18 All Natural.esp [Version 0.9.9]19 All Natural - SI.esp [Version 0.9.9]++ All Natural - Enhanced Weather.esp [Version Final]1A phinix-waterfix.esp++ Symphony of Violence.esp1B AmbientTownSounds.esp1C MIS Low Wind.esp1D MIS New Sounds Optional Part.esp1E Atmospheric Oblivion.esp++ Diverse Voices.esp++ Hear-Me-Not.esp1F Silent Player Voice.esp20 Rainbows.esp21 WindowLightingSystem.esp22 AmbientDungeons.esp [Version 1.3]23 300_Lore_Dialogue_Updated.esp24 Book Jackets Oblivion.esp++ Item interchange - Extraction.esp [Version 0.78]25 Qarls_Harvest.esp++ VA_BetterGold.esp26 Enhanced Economy.esp [Version 3.4.3]27 Map Marker Overhaul.esp [Version 3.4]28 Map Marker Overhaul - SI additions.esp [Version 3.0.2]29 DLCHorseArmor.esp2A DLCHorseArmor - Unofficial Patch.esp [Version 1.0.5]2B SM Plugin Refurbish - HorseArmor.esp [Version 1.11]2C DLCOrrery.esp2D DLCOrrery - Unofficial Patch.esp [Version 1.0.3]2E SM Plugin Refurbish - Orrery.esp [Version 1.11]2F DLCVileLair.esp30 DLCVileLair - Unofficial Patch.esp [Version 1.0.5]31 SM Plugin Refurbish - VileLair.esp [Version 1.21]32 DLCMehrunesRazor.esp33 DLCMehrunesRazor - Unofficial Patch.esp [Version 1.0.4]34 SM Plugin Refurbish - MehrunesRazor.esp [Version 1.30]35 DLCSpellTomes.esp++ DLCSpellTomes - Unofficial Patch.esp [Version 1.0.1]36 Book Jackets DLC.esp++ GrimbotsSpellTomes.esp++ MaleBodyReplacerV4.esp++ EVE_StockEquipmentReplacer.esp++ CSR - Fine Iron.esp++ CSR - Golden Saint.esp37 MerryBellInn.esp38 XSPipeMod.esp [Version 1.2]** Armamentium female.esp39 Cobl Glue.esp [Version 1.72]3A Cobl Si.esp [Version 1.63]3B OOO 1.32-Cobl.esp [Version 1.72]++ Cobl Tweaks.esp [Version 1.44]3C Oscuro's_Oblivion_Overhaul.esp [Version 1.34]++ OOO-Water_Weeds.esp [Version 1.33]++ OOO-DLT_Remover.esp [Version 1.33]3D RealitySpectreStars2HeavenBetterPotionsOOOEffects.esp3E ArmamentariumArtifacts.esp [Version 1.35]3F OBSE-Storms & Sound SI.esp40 Mart's Monster Mod for OOO.esp [Version 0.9.9MB3]++ Mart's Monster Mod - Shivering Isles.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]41 Mart's Monster Mod - Additional Enemy NPC Vars.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]42 Mart's Monster Mod - Gems & Gem Dust.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]43 Mart's Monster Mod - Hunting & Crafting.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]++ Mart's Monster Mod - Looting NPCs & Creatures.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]44 Mart's Monster Mod - Zombies for Body Meshes.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]++ Mart's Monster Mod - Less Bone Loot.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]++ Mart's Monster Mod - Safer Roads.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]++ Mart's Monster Mod - No Swarms.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]++ Mart's Monster Mod - No Slimes.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]++ Mart's Monster Mod - No Beholdens.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]++ Mart's Monster Mod - Spawn Rates - Reduced.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]45 Mart's Monster Mod - Dungeons of MMM.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]46 Mart's Monster Mod - More Wilderness Life.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]++ Mart's Monster Mod - More Passive Wildlife.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]47 Mart's Monster Mod - City Defences.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]48 Mart's Monster Mod - Extra Wounding.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]++ Mart's Monster Mod - Friendlier Factions OOO.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]49 Mart's Monster Mod - Farm Animals.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]4A Mart's Monster Mod - Diverse WaterLife.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]++ Mart's Monster Mod - Slof Horses Complete.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]++ Mart's Monster Mod - Diverse Runeskulls Loot G&GD.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]4B TamrielTravellers4OOO.esp [Version 1.39c]4C TamrielTravellersItemsCobl.esp [Version 1.39c]4D ShiveringIsleTravellers.esp [Version 1.39c]++ ShiveringIsleTravellersFriendlyFactions4MMM.esp [Version 1.39c]++ ArmamentariumLL4OOO.esp [Version 2.01]++ ArmamentariumLLMagicOOO.esp [Version 1.35]4E FineWeapons for OOO.esp4F Full Harvest.esp [Version 1.0]50 RustyItems for OOO.esp51 OOO-WaterFish.esp [Version 1.34]++ MMM-Cobl.esp [Version 1.69]++ EVE_StockEquipmentReplacer for OOO.esp++ EVE_StockEquipmentReplacer4MMM.esp52 Lock Bash Omega.esp [Version 1.5]53 Artifacts.esp [Version 1.1]++ Artifacts - ArmaCompleteAddon.esp [Version 1.0]54 BHC_Expanded.esp [Version 1.2]55 CDEP-UnderpallCave.esp56 PinePeakLodge.esp57 SingingStablehandInn.esp58 SleepyCatInn.esp59 Sylar_INNMergedCyrodillInnsRevised.esp5A The Ayleid Steps.esp [Version 3.3.2]5B WellDiver.esp5C Cliff_RankDependantArenaSpectators.esp [Version 1.0]5D MTCExpandedVillages.esp5E road+bridges.esp [Version 4.5.5]5F Feldscar.esp [Version 1.0.2]60 Vergayun.esp [Version 1.0.4]61 Faregyl.esp [Version 1.0.10]62 xuldarkforest.esp [Version 1.0.4]63 xulStendarrValley.esp [Version 1.2.2]64 xulTheHeath.esp65 XulEntiusGorge.esp66 xulFallenleafEverglade.esp [Version 1.3.1]67 xulColovianHighlands_EV.esp [Version 1.2.1]68 xulChorrolHinterland.esp [Version 1.2.2]69 xulBeachesOfCyrodiilLostCoast.esp [Version 1.6.4]6A xulBravilBarrowfields.esp [Version 1.3.2]6B xulLushWoodlands.esp [Version 1.3]6C xulAncientYews.esp [Version 1.4.2]6D xulAncientRedwoods.esp [Version 1.6]6E xulCloudtopMountains.esp [Version 1.0.3]6F xulArriusCreek.esp [Version 1.1.3]70 xulPatch_AY_AC.esp [Version 1.1]71 xulRollingHills_EV_withoutWheat.esp [Version 1.3.2]72 xulPantherRiver.esp73 xulRiverEthe.esp [Version 1.0.2]74 xulBrenaRiverRavine.esp [Version 1.0.2]75 xulImperialIsle.esp [Version 1.6.3]76 xulBlackwoodForest.esp77 xulCheydinhalFalls.esp [Version 1.0.1]78 xulAspenWood.esp [Version 1.0.1]79 xulSkingradOutskirts.esp7A NRB4+UL-II Patch.esp [Version 5.0.1]7B Harvest [Flora].esp [Version 3.0.0]++ Harvest [Flora] - Shivering Isles.esp [Version 3.0.0]++ Harvest [Flora] - DLCVileLair.esp [Version 3.0.0]7C Buried_Treasure.esp7D Cliff_BetterLetters.esp [Version 1.1]7E Cliff's Shacks Basemants-Radiant AI.esp [Version 1.0]7F DecoratorAssistant with OBSE v1.1.esp80 DropLitTorchOBSE.esp [Version 2.4]81 EVE_ShiveringIslesEasterEggs.esp82 Oblivifall - Ambiant Dungeon SFX.esp [Version 1.1]83 Oblivifall - Closing Time.esp [Version 1.0]84 Oblivifall - Let's Talk!.esp [Version 1.1]85 Oblivifall - New Classes.esp [Version 1.0]86 Oblivifall - Something's Not Right.esp [Version 1.0]87 ReneerNPCNameMod.esp88 Enhanced Vegetation [125%].esp89 Quest Award Leveller.esp++ Quest Award Leveller - Vile Lair.esp++ Quest Award Leveller - Mehrunes Razor.esp8A Alternate Start Revamped.esp8B Syc_AtHomeAlchemy.esp8C Lightweight Potions.esp [Version 1.1]8D StealthOverhaul.esp8E StealthOverhaul, Cobl.esp [Version 1.1]8F Morrowind Lockpicking.esp90 RenGuardOverhaul.esp91 RenGuardOverhaulShiveringIsles.esp92 nGCD.esp93 nGCD Oghma Infinium.esp94 ProgressGSD.esp [Version 2.0]95 ProgressMBSP.esp [Version 2.0]96 ProgressSBSP.esp [Version 1.0]97 ProgressRBSP.esp [Version 1.0]98 ProgressRacial.esp99 ProgressArmorer.esp [Version 1.0]9A ProgressMercantile.esp [Version 1.11]++ Item interchange - Placement.esp [Version 0.78]++ Item interchange - Option, Ingredients in Bulk.esp [Version 0.78]++ EVE_KhajiitFix.esp++ Mart's Monster Mod - Resized Races.esp [Version 3.7b3p3]++ Slof's Oblivion Better Beasts.esp9B EyelashesVannilaRaces.esp9C bgBalancingEVCore.esp [Version 10.52EV-D]9D bgMagicEV.esp [Version 1.7EV]++ bgMagicSpellTomes_for_WryeBash.esp [Version 1.68EV]++ bgMagicItemSigil.esp [Version 1.68EV]++ bgMagicEVStartspells.esp [Version 1.68EV]9E bgMagicBonus.esp [Version 1.7EV]++ bgMagicEVAddEnVar.esp [Version 1.68EV]9F bgMagicEVPaperChase.esp [Version 1.68EV]A0 bgMagicAlchemy.esp [Version 1.57]A1 bgMagicPotionNumberSoulGemValue.esp [Version 1.68UV]++ Stealthier Magic.espA2 bgBalancingOptionalLessHealth.esp [Version 10.0UV-U]++ bgBalancingEVOptionalClasses.esp [Version 9.0EV-U]++ bgBalancingEVOptionalFangs.esp [Version 10.0EV-D]++ bgBalancingEVOptionalMoreEyes.esp [Version 10]A3 bgBalancingEVOptionalNPCDiversity, TNR Merge Better Redguards.esp [Version 10.0EV-D]++ bgBalancingEVOptionalFCOMAdditions.esp [Version 10.]A4 bgBalancingEVLAMEAddition.esp [Version 10.51EV-D]A5 bgBalancingEVLAMEGlue.esp [Version 10.0EV-D1.62EV]A6 bgBalancingEVOptionalNPCDiversityLAME.esp [Version 10.5EV-D]A7 Anticipation Of Shadow.esp++ bgBalancingEVOptionalSeamReducerHighElfFix.esp [Version 10.0EV-D]A8 bgIntegrationEV.esp [Version 0.993]A9 Better Cities Full.espAA BCBravilFULL-Barrowfields patch.espAB BCChorrol-ChorrolHinterland fix.espAC BCCheydinhalFULL-CheydinhalFalls patch.espAD BCSkingrad-SkingradOutskirts patch.espAE Better Imperial City.espAF Better Cities - COBL.esp [Version 2]B0 Automatic Timescale.esp [Version 1.0]B1 SPAWN.esp [Version 0.3]B2 bgMagicLightningbolt.esp++ Life Detected - OMOD.espB3 CDM - Evening Lockdown.espB4 Vacuity.esp [Version 0.2]B5 NRB4 Standard Road Record.esp++ Cobl Filter Late MERGE ONLY.esp [Version 1.53]B6 Cobl Silent Equip Misc.esp [Version 01]** All Natural - Indoor Weather Filter For Mods.esp [Version 0.9.9]B7 Bashed Patch - Crimson.espB8 Oblivion Graphics Extender Support.esp [Version 0.2]B9 Streamline 3.1.esp
I have TamrielTravellersItemsNPC.esp with both "Filter" and "NoMerge" - so it's not in the Bashed Patch and it's not activated. I'm not sure what's the deal with it.
For bgBalancingEVOptionalNPCDiversity, TNR Merge Better Redguards.esp - I wasn't sure if this includes both the TNR and Better Redguards esp modifications or if either of those two ought to be loaded still.
Much obliged!
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